Comparison between Arranged Marriage and Western Dating
If someone were to suggest in the West that arranged marriage is a great method of matchmaking, they would be probably be met with scorn and criticism. This is because in the west it is viewed as a tool focused solely on the oppression of women. Many believe that there is no possible way a woman would enjoy such a great decision forced on her, and would hate her chosen husband. In “Arranging a Marriage in India,” by Serena Nanda, we see that the opposite is the case. The notion of true love in the west is also challenged by the process that western couples must endure to find that perfect someone. Many men and women become jaded in their search, as is shown in “Love in the Time of Darwinism,” by Kay S. Hymowitz. In these works, the institution of arranged marriage is actually beneficial to couples as there is less risk involved than with the western tradition of dating due to the intervention of family. In the movie Monsoon Wedding, directed by Mira Nair, though the bride to be is in an arranged marriage, she chooses instead to continue an affair with her boss. Her affair nearly gets her caught by the police because the man she thought she loved more than her arranged husband, cared more for not getting caught by his current wife. When she explained herself to her husband to be, he was completely understanding of what she had done, and appreciated her honesty as well. They decided to continue with their marriage as well because they knew it would be the best thing for their families. As revealed in “Love in the Time of Darwinism,” the average western man, after finding out that their love was in an affair, would not act in such selfless manner as seen from the groom in Monsoon Wedding. The groom, while angry at first, decided they would continue their marriage and deal with her issues as mature adults, thus keeping their families intact. The average western man however, would break up with their love, and...
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