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The power of being a parent is infinite; raising your kids the way you think fit for your children to have the success they need in life to be happy. No one parent is like another, each parent does things in their own way. Telling another culture they are doing the wrong thing by raising their children the way they seem fit is wrong; they have that power. Mothers in general have the biggest influence on a kids’ life, because of the connection they share from birth and on. In the essay “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior”, Chua is claiming Chinese mothers know best when it comes to raising children to become successful in the work force. Sacrificing being happy as children for being happy as adults. In another essay “Mother Inferior?” Rosin counters Chua statement. Chua’s article outlines Chinese parenting, and contrasting them with the Western views of parenting. Parenting for Chinese is like a dictatorship; telling their children what they can or cannot do in their free time. Rosin is the extreme opposite of Chua, “What privilege American children need is not more skills and rules and math drills. They need to lighten up and roam free, to express themselves in ways not dictated by their uptight over invested parents” (Rosin par. 4) Rosin believes children should grow up in a way where parents do not have an influence in their decision making throughout their lives. Chua explains in here essay Chinese children grow up to be the most successful in life because of the lack of having fun when they are growing up. Studies show that Chinese children are growing up to be doctors and lawyers; thanks to the strict study patterns learned from the strict over involved parents. Rosin opens her essay with her explaining a game she plays with her son; making him laugh and run around as a kid should do when they are growing up. Rosin believes her parenting style is better than Chinese parents because she bases it off the happiness of the children, not like Chua. Chua does

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