Alisha M. Abate
September 25, 2011
6510 Bisby Lake Ave.
San Diego CA, 92119
708 11th. St. N.
Fargo ND, 58102
Dear Mrs. Jane, I am responding to your request for guidance in communicating with your fiancé Erik. I believe that there are five areas of communication that will help you and Erik communicate more efficiently, and they are: understanding the principles of interpersonal communication, developing active listening skills, understanding how emotions and nonverbal expression affect interpersonal relationships, understanding how gender and culture effect communication, and learning appropriate levels of self-disclosure. We will discuss how important it is to learn how and why we communicate with each other and the different ways you maybe communicating without even knowing it.
Principles of Communication In order for you and Erik to communicate efficiently you must understand the principles of communication. When the two of you are having a discussion remember to always be respect each other, if you and Erik focus on the faults of each other’s arguments you two will have trouble coming to a sound conclusion. This next one is difficult to practice especially in heated arguments, but we must remember to restrain ourselves falling into the habit of interrupting the other person when they are speaking. In the article Principles of Effective Interpersonal Communication Author Alan Sharland states “By not interrupting others and focusing our attention on what they say, we become listened to ourselves a lot more!”. When you and Erik are having a rather heated discussion remember to use “I”, this will allow Erik to see that you are not making assumption you are speaking on his behalf (Sharlands, A. 2011). This will help you show Erik how you feel and your perspective on a topic. Here’s an example, “You always leave your shoes in the middle of the hallway even though you
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