传说有一次苏东坡拜访高僧佛印，两个人正谈的兴起，苏东坡突然披上佛印的袈裟问：“你看我像什么？” 佛印答：“像佛。”，然后问苏东坡：“你看老朽像什么？” 苏东坡正得意忘形，便大笑着说：“我看你像一滩牛粪！” 佛印笑了笑不再言语。
事后，苏东坡在得意之余，将此事告诉了苏小妹。不料苏小妹却兜头给他泼了一瓢冷水，“这下你可输惨了”，苏小妹说。苏东坡不解，问：“此话怎讲？”苏小妹答：“心中有何事物就看到何事物，佛印心中有佛，所以看你就是佛;而你心中有污秽之物，你看到的自然就是牛粪。” There is a legend about a time Su Dongpo visited the Zen master Foyin. Both of them were on the rise, Su Dongpo suddenly put on Foyin’s Buddha cassock and asked: "what do you think I am?" Foyin answered: “Like a Buddha.” Then he asked Su Dongpo: “How do you think about me?” Su Dongpo was very delighted to hear that and he said with a laugh: “You look like a pile of bullshit!” Foyin smiled and said no more.
Thinking that it’s a great win over Foyin of the wits Battle, Dongpo, riding high home, told his sister Su Xiaomei of it, but Su Xiaomei poured cold water on him and said: “You’ve got a big loss.” Su Dongpo puzzled and asked why. Su Xiaomei explained: “It is because Zen Master’s mind is actually that of a Buddha that he could see you as a Buddha. As your mind is like a pile of bullshit, of course, you saw him as a pile of bullshit.”
我相信苏东坡听到苏小妹此席话，心中肯定很不是滋味。其实在工作的日常管理或与人的相处中，为了不成为“牛粪”，最好的就是宽容和谅解，所谓“退一步海阔天空”也即是此道理。 I believe that Su Dongpo was upset when he heard Su Xiaomei’s words. In fact, in the daily management or deal with people, the best way is tolerance and understanding, which could avoid to becoming“cow dung”. That is so-called “step back and have a brighter future”.
Most people always answer a tooth for a tooth, anger not yet appeased, even to seek revenge for the smallest grievance when they were misunderstood or curse. Thus, with space becomes nervous sense, at the same time, the so-called “sweetheart" once made, it is difficult to vanish, because Chinese people is so face-loving. Therefore, I think the best way is smiling to listen to him or criticized, with a good heart to take a pity on those