Changing My Irrational Thoughts To Deal With My Breakup: Personal Analysis
In addition to Ellis, Aaron Beck (1967) - another pioneer in cognitive behavioral psychology also identified a number of illogical thinking processes. He also proposed a negative cognitive triad model to illustrate how early negative events lead to distortions in how people judge about one’s self, world, and future. These cognitive distortions make people vulnerable to distress in times of dilemma.
Not surprisingly, I can identify several cognitive distortions in my breakup experience which contributed to my symptoms of depression. Apart from “The one” belief, I also self-blamed for the separation. I told myself, “I am not perfect enough, and I must have done something wrong that J decided to leave me alone.” In fact, this thinking pattern …show more content…
Changing My Irrational Thoughts To Deal With My Breakup
Generally speaking, the first love breakup is one of the toughest to overcome - I am not an exception. As a matter of fact, I took half a year to recover from my breakup which was truly an isolating and suffocating experience. So far, as I have analyzed my breakup dilemma through the lens of cognitive behavioral perspective in this essay, I can see that during most of my post- breakup time, my thoughts had the common element of focusing on the bad at the expense of the good. Even worse, some of them are …show more content…
An example of this is that I would have recognized my problem of personalization by informing myself, “I did nothing wrong. J and I ending our romantic relationship is not a reflection of my character or worthiness. The only thing my ended relationship means is that we were not as compatible as we thought.” Instead of blaming to myself or dwelling on the past, I should have let go of blame and coped with the issues at
Not surprisingly, I can identify several cognitive distortions in my breakup experience which contributed to my symptoms of depression. Apart from “The one” belief, I also self-blamed for the separation. I told myself, “I am not perfect enough, and I must have done something wrong that J decided to leave me alone.” In fact, this thinking pattern …show more content…
Changing My Irrational Thoughts To Deal With My Breakup
Generally speaking, the first love breakup is one of the toughest to overcome - I am not an exception. As a matter of fact, I took half a year to recover from my breakup which was truly an isolating and suffocating experience. So far, as I have analyzed my breakup dilemma through the lens of cognitive behavioral perspective in this essay, I can see that during most of my post- breakup time, my thoughts had the common element of focusing on the bad at the expense of the good. Even worse, some of them are …show more content…
An example of this is that I would have recognized my problem of personalization by informing myself, “I did nothing wrong. J and I ending our romantic relationship is not a reflection of my character or worthiness. The only thing my ended relationship means is that we were not as compatible as we thought.” Instead of blaming to myself or dwelling on the past, I should have let go of blame and coped with the issues at