Caring for the Care Giver
Northeast State Community College
In a world that went through a stage of “baby boomers” we now find ourselves in a situation of caring for mom and dad or grandparents while raising a family and working. All of us feel that we are superman or wonder women at the time we take on the task of caregiving. After evaluating and working directly with the elderly, mentally challenged, and profound mentally retarded population I have spent many hours with families that experience the burden of caring for mom, dad or grandparents.
Results show that decisions are easier to make if mom, dad, or grandparents have choices they can make while they still maintain the where with all to do so. The frustration associated with having to make the decision alone becomes easier when the decision is made early on as to what steps should be taken if situation arises that caregiving is needed. As you read this paper you will see many reasons why seeking for a caregiver is important and knowing that the situation should be evaluated from a personal level as well as a medical level.
Coming from a field of working in health care, and providing help to families that have to make that dreaded decision of placing a family member in a facility or caring for them in their home as they work and raise children. I know firsthand that caregiving will cause burnout as well as placing a large burden on someone shoulder. It is up to our generation to explore the impact of caregiving and review options that families may not know they have. In an artical done by Joan M. Rawlins and Michele Spencer and published in the “Journal of Comparative Family Studies,(Winter 202) p125” they state “As the ability to care one’s self declines, elderly persons depend on their children, relatives or friends, rather than paid carers for assistance in the majority of cases.” This decline in self-care, causing the children to bring mom or dad into their home leads to major issues and burdens on the children. There are many reasons for being burdened with placement or care for one’s family member. With both parents working one may have to give up their day job and work alternate shift from their spouse in an effort to care for the family member without bringing outside caregivers in. Families also tend to take on responsibilities for caring for their family member along with running the house whole, supporting the children in all activities at school and daily living skills that are required on daily basis. The amount of a caregiver’s load may be made worse by a number of reasons, however can be lightened by many factors. It seems to have a tendency to worsen when the people involved are generally isolated and lack understanding of the condition they may be dealing with on a long term basis. Sometimes if the person being cared for is an in-law there is a possibility that the person providing the care may be limited as far as
interpersonal skills. One problem that arises when families try to care for mom, dad or grandparents in their home and that is that the relationship between the husband and wife begins to show signs of strain. Families tend to harbor feelings of guilt when it comes to placing their family member, so they feel a scene of obligations for moving them into their home. According to an article written in “Community Care”(Mar.18, 2004):p15,”Nearly one in five carers has had to leave a job or has been unable to take one because of their caring responsibilities, according to new research.” Speaking from experience, a number of families caring for their family member at home in an effort to save money and possible not get into what may be their inheritance, have suffered financially. This problem stems from one of the caregivers giving up or losing their job for absentee’s or work performance going down. Many of these households have children of all ages from infant to teenager. Children seem to suffer as...
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