“No one was home after school so I tried to hang myself in my basement. I know what you’re thinking, why would she do such a selfish thing? Well I was going through so much I couldn’t even handle anything anymore. I have never really told many people how far the bullying got; I don't think my mum even knows really. I have never been slim, but I was never that big, yeah I am overweight but not by that much. I have never been anywhere close to being obese and I don't have a double chin or rolls on my stomach except when I sit down. Yet people use to always call me fat and it destroyed me” said Alex’s, a victim of emotional, physical and psychological bullying (Alex’s 2012). First of all, bullying is typically things such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and excluding someone from a group on purpose. In this paper, I will explain what bullying is and the psychological means behind it. Furthermore, I will explain what Marano talks about in her article, “Big Bad Bully”. Finally, I’m going to talk about my opinions about the article and ways to stop bullying within our social groups. According to Sandra Graham, PhD, UCLA, bullying is defined as the use of force to abuse or intimidate others. The behavior of bullying can cause harm to others in many ways. It can include verbal, physical, or emotional abuse towards an individual or a group of people. Sometimes bullying can be in a form of a threat. There are different types of bullying such as direct and indirect. Direct bullying refers to those being bullied physically and verbally; whereas indirect bullying refers to a group or activity formed to exclude an individual (Manninen 2012). Just like many kids, Alex’s was bullied during her junior and high school years by her fellow schoolmates. Her bullies urinated on her, called her foul names, kicked her several times, verbally and physically attacked and brutalized her to the point where social workers had to step in because Alex’s attempted suicide by hanging. According to Sandra Graham 70% of middle and high school students such as Alex’s have experienced bullying at some point in their lives. Statistics say that 8-15 year olds rate bullying as more of a problem in their lives than violence, which in my opinion is very scary knowing that violence to many of us seems to be one of the obvious problem than bullying. When kids like Alex’s experience situations such as bullying, they will most likely worsen and be unable to cope; resulting in depression, anxiety, lack of interest in school, running away from home, suicidal ideas and attempts, and eventually death.
The person hurt the most by bullying is the bully himself although it may not seem like the obvious. People are more likely to talk about the victims of bullying rather than the actual bully who the problems start with in the first place. Bullies seem to suffer a great deal of pain just like the victims of bullying. In the article “Big Bad Bully” Marano writes about the life of the bully himself. Most bullies are boys while the victims are equally girls and boys (Marano 2012). Bullies many times inflict pain on others because of jealousy, the need to be popular, a way of showing off, need for attention, their own insecurities and most times because of family or personal issues. The last reason might relate to a lot of bullies who have personal and/or family problems so they go outside and cause pain to innocent people (Marano 2012). These bullies want others to feel the pain their feeling. About 15% to 20% of children have been victims of bullying or have bullied others. According to a Canadian study 15% boys have admitted to bullying others (Marano 2012). Studies show that bullies are different from normal people because they have a distinctive cognitive make-up, and they purposely have hostility towards others such as seeking trouble where trouble can be avoided. Bullies interpret things differently from normal people. For...
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