Auto biographical essay on divorce
Divorce in my eyes is definitely one of the biggest happening things to everyday life. To make things simple, divorce is basically the dissolution of marriage by law. Marriage is something that everyone will face during his or her upcoming lives, but divorce should not be a case due to a cause of dishonesty, or even a constant fighting mishap. In my opinion divorce should have never even came about in this society today. It should either be a done / done situation or a never happening issue. Divorce; the word makes many children shudder when they are young, and many children know the meaning all too well. I, unfortunately, am no exception. I experienced it when I was 15 years old. It was a couple living our next door; they have really good relation with us. They were get married, when I was 12 years old and I was heard that they did love marriage and having really good life they also had one child and having a great life they came to our house almost every day and we were like family member. Unfortunately one day they had some issue at their home, my mom dad went there and discussed about whatever happened there and try to settle down everything but it was like a big issue I didn’t know that at that time I was feeling so bad that what’s going on there I was really tensed about that and when my parents came back I asked them about whatever happened there but my mom tried hide that from me by saying you are kid but I was really upset about that issue. One day a bad news came that they finally having a divorce and getting isolated from each other and child will live with mother but it was really bad situation that a child have to live with only mother not having the love of father. I was really sad that day and even I cried that it shouldn’t be happened with that child he deserves both parents to be lived with them but he can’t. After some time I get to know that why they had divorced actually the reason behind that, the person’s wife thought that he is cheating him and even he came late from his work or something like that she started to say false statements to her husband and bad words that she had an affair with someone else and he doesn’t love her anyone and his husband tried to convince her much more that she is thinking wrong she only love her and even they are married. But she didn’t listened and day after day it was a major issue of their house and woman brothers came and her parents to settle down this matter but they can’t her brothers tried a lot to go deeper to this matter and they told her sister ( person’s wife) that actually she is wrong but all in vain she just want to get divorced from him and her wrong thinking get her divorced from her love, her husband and who was everything for her. But she did whatever she thought is right and it was her right to do whatever she want to but she should went deeper to this matter and may be this issue could be solved but now why should cry on spoil milk. Divorce, however, is not always a terrible thing. In a few given situations it proves to be for the best. The two situations that may prove beneficial for a person to get a divorce are abusive relationships and infidelity. When one parent is abusive, whether verbal, physical, or sexual, to the children, it is more beneficial to the child if the parent leaves. Also, if one spouse is beating the other, the marriage should be ended. If a child watches his/her parent get beaten his entire life, he/she could think that it is fine to act this way or severely resent the parent for staying. Also, when a spouse is committing infidelity, divorce is most certainly an option. When one spouse is confronted with the affairs and still will not quit having them, the Bible gives the option of divorce. It generally proves to be more beneficial for a child if his/her parents stay in an imperfect marriage rather than getting a divorce. The various activities that are involved with a divorce severely damage a child. The child lacks a sense of belonging and becomes very confused. Therefore, when a person gets married, he/she needs to think long and hard to make sure that this is the right choice for him/her and for possible children that may come along one day. The person needs to make sure he/she does not settle for the person he/she can live with; he/she needs to wait for the person that he/she cannot live without. It was clear from that couple’s divorced that their child have to live with his mother that is wrong for their child that he can’t meet his father. From my point of view, he should have right to meet him whenever he want to and one should go deeper to everything before getting divorce so they won’t go to wrong way like that lady did to her life by having negative thinking and thinking wrong about his innocent husband. But divorce is good too in some cases it can show the right way to someone by leaving the wrong person and achieving right goals and right person in his/her life.