Arrange Marriage - 1

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Places such as Iran, Iraq, Afghanistan, Japan, china, Indinesia, India, Bangladesh, Pakistan and other Muslim/Islam countries arranged marriage are common and accepted. It’s looked upon as a successful tradition in many countries. In North America arranged marriage are considered to be objectionable when compare to choice available in love. Parents say that they know their children the best, and they have a lot of wisdom to know who and what’s best for them. The most important part in choosing an arrange marriage are “the bond between the two families, rather than the relationship between the couple being married’. Some families let their the couples go out on dates to get to know each other, some families only grant supervise visit to the couple to be married and others don’t even see each other in person it may only be a picture that they see. In Afghanistan at least 60 to 80 percent of marriages are forced. But however, in some Countries man and woman can refuse the spouse selected for them. Arrange marriage tend to last longer than love marriage, the divorce rate of arrange marriage is lower than those of love marriage, because the more tradition people don’t believe in divorce and they tend to try and work thing out. However, people are now taking advantage of the current system through “marriage of convenience”. Partners that live here are seen as a good match because they live here and have a successful life. Partners that get married to someone over here are over whelmed, because not only do they get to come over but their families as well. Also, people pay lump sum of money just to come over to Canada or to get there landed paper because may be they came as a refugee. Since people are now using arranged marriage as a way of either coming to Canada or getting the landed paper, “Immigration officers are now allowed to refuse visas to applicants if they suspect a marriage of convenience”. Explanation of Arrange marriage
Arranged marriages are where partners are chosen by family members, these family members are usually parents. Family loyalties become a “strong sense”, since marriage partners may not be consulted. Arranged marriage are view as a “social and economic necessity”, it’s where the families agree upon what’s best for the groom and the bride, so that they their future will be successful. This type of marriage then to be based on how each side of parties would benefit from this union. Finding the right partner is based on different things in different countries, for example in India and Sri Lanka they allow marriages only in the same cast/group/level, partners will have to be in the same social level in order to get married so the lower class people won’t be able to marry someone from a higher class. And in other countries, they look at how well educated you are, they look at where you live and how wealthy you and your family are because, yet again arranged marriage are the bond of two families and they want their kids to get married into a good family, where they can live a happy life. Most arrange marriages that take place are usually within the same ethnic group. Arrange marriages are looked as a successful tradition culture that works for the most part at least.

Opinion
I look at arrange marriage in two ways good and bad. I know that arrange marriage for most countries are tradition and I also know that the parents have the best interest for their kids and want their kids to be happy and live a good life. However, in some cases I don’t like when you have to force your child to get married. I believe that everyone has the choice to refuse to marry the selected partner that was chosen for them. Everyone should have a choice to whether or not to get arrange marriage or love marriage, because people in today’s society tend to get love marriage and sometimes the parents don’t approve of it so what happens usually are their kids normally run away from home or they sacrifice their love for their parents happiness. I have nothing against arrange marriage as some of my friends had arrange marriage some went good and other turned out bad, for example one of my friends got married to someone in India, a year later told her that he had a girlfriend in India but was forced into this marriage and that he wanted a divorce, so their separated now and he brought over his parents and now going back home to marry his girlfriend. In my opinion it all depend on how you look and view arrange marriage, if you are close to your family members and you want what they want for you and you don’t mind arrange marriage then that’s okay, but on the other hand, if you have a partner already that you love and want to get married to then I don’t think it’s right for you to choose between your love and you family because that’s not fair.