Composition & Rhetoric
Process of Adoption
It is a pretty safe bet to say that everyone knows what adoption is; it is also pretty safe to say that everyone knows, or at least knows of, someone who is adopted. However, I would definitely think twice before that people would know what was involved in the process of adoption.
From the time I was a young girl, I have always thought that I would adopt a child, since being an adopted from South Korea. My mother had always told me about the long process it took for me to be adopted. She had always mentioned that adopting a child was for the best, especially from a different country because it would benefit children who are living in an unhappy lifestyle.
Even today, as I look to my future and think about the different avenues before me, I still openly consider the prospect of adopting a child. As being an adopted child, growing up was confusing and somewhat hurtful. Knowing I was adopted was not the problem; the problem was always being questioned about why I was adopted and how come I did not look like my mother. I had always felt self-conscious about being in public with my family or if my mother ever came into school. I felt ashamed and afraid of what my friends and other peers would say about me. In the end, I realized that I should not care about what other people think because regardless of what happens, I know my mom will always be there for me; and that is why she adopted me. She cared enough about me to go through the long process of being adopted, that she still cares about me today.
I would venture to say that there are many people in the world who have similar feelings about adoption. People who would like to let a needy child into their loving home, but do not know if they would qualify, have any rights, or have to pay a large sum of money. Also, in my mind, I pictured a happy union with a grateful and happy child. I did not contemplate the fact that these children often have many problems that they bring with them. Again, I would guess that others are unaware of this and unaware of how to handle such problems.
I realized that if adoption were ever to be a possibility for me, that it was time I became more informed about the process. I have sought to answer some basic questions about the adoption process itself and the effects that it can have on the adopted children.
Adoption is the process of becoming the legal and permanent guardian of a child when there has been a termination of parental rights. “Termination of parental rights legally frees a child to be adopted by another person or persons, and may be voluntary or involuntary (court ordered)” (Children P.4).
The decision to adopt is obviously life-altering for the adoptive parents as well as the adopted child. Neither the process nor the decision is to be taken lightly. There are many steps that must be taken before approval given to the adoptive parents and the adoption legalized. “The adoption process begins with a Family Preparation which consists of meetings between the prospective adoptive family and a social worker and provides an opportunity for the family to learn more about and to seriously consider their motivations and expectations for adopting” (Adoption). This process can take anywhere between three to six months and generally includes a personal history, health statements, a criminal background check, an income statement, personal references, and numerous interviews.
Not anyone can adopt, but the guidelines for approval are not discriminatory or especially hard to meet. A physical examination and health statements are required, but being in perfect health is not. “A medical condition that is under control (high blood pressure, diabetes, etc.) usually would not prevent a person from being approved to adopt; however, a serious health problem that affects the life expectancy may prevent approval” (Adoption). Likewise, an...
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