Abusive Relationships can cause physical and emotional violence, fear, and even guilt. Many abusive relationships often go unheard because of the threat from the abuser. Abusive relationships impact millions of relationships each day and teenage girls are at the highest risk. The impact on these relationships can cause life changing consequences.
Abusive relationships can cause many physical altercations that can be life threatening. In the journal, “Reporting Domestic Violence,” a journalist states the warning signs of physically abusive relationships: “According to the national Domestic Violence Hotline, you may be in a physically abusive relationship if your partner has ever: damaged property when angry (e.g. thrown objects, punched walls, kicked doors, etc.), pushed, slapped, bitten, kicked or choked you, abandoned you in a dangerous or unfamiliar place, scared you by driving recklessly, used a weapon to threaten or hurt you, forced you to leave your home, trapped you in your home or kept you from leaving, prevented you from calling police or seeking medical attention, hurt your children, or used physical force in sexual situations.” (“Reporting Domestic Violence”) This quote illustrates the warnings of a potential abusive relationship. This quote is connected to the hypothesis because some of the signs can be physically life threatening. In the movie “Enough,” “there is a part when Jennifer Lopez (Slim) and her daughter try to escape from the abusive marriage and he finds the husbands catches up to them and hits, slaps, kicks, and punches Slim almost to death.” (Apted) This quote illustrates the hardship and struggle of abusive relationships. This quote is connected to the hypothesis the wife in the movie almost got killed by her abusive husband. Abusive Relationships did not only cause by physical abuse but also mental abuse.
Emotional pain was another heavy toll caused by abusive relationships. In the article, “The Dark Side of Dating,” the author states how the abuser feels about being in an abusive relationship: “When there are good times, you might think that once the bad stuff is “fixed” the relationship will go back to how it was before it went bad,” says Corcoran. But being with someone who swings between being cruel and being kind can have consequences, including making you feel depressed or really bad about yourself. “Max had put me down so much that I had no self esteem,” says Brittny.” (Larsen) This quote illustrates how an abuser can make you feel bad about yourself. This quote is connected to the hypothesis because the victim in the article faced self esteem issues because of the emotional pain in a relationship. In the journal, “Reporting Domestic Violence,” a journalist states the emotional warning signs of an abusive relationship: “Calls you names, insults you or continually criticizes you; does not trust you and acts jealous or possessive; tries to isolate you from friends and family; monitors where you go, who you call and who you spend time with, does not want you to work, controls finances or refuses to share money; punishes you by withholding affection; experts you to ask permission, threatens to hurt you, the children, your family, or your pets; humiliates you in any way.” (“Reporting Domestic Violence”) This quote illustrates the emotional/mental signs of a bad relationship. This quote is connected to the hypothesis because it shows an emotional burden on a relationship. Sometimes relationships can even cause a heavy fear from the victim.
Abusive relationships for the victim can cause them to be terrified of the abuser. In the article, “A woman tells of escape from abusive spouse,” the author states the fright of one victim’s abusive relationship: “I turned into a quivering, shivering little mouse that was afraid of being in his presence,” said Elaine, whose last name is withholding for her protection. “I second guessed every move, second guessed every action.” For Elaine, the abuse was more emotional than physical, nut she felt unable to leave her husband, even when an escape route was offered.” (Rodriguez) This quote illustrates the fear of how a woman was afraid of her husband and how she could not leave him even though she was terrified of him. This quote is connected to the hypothesis because the mother was afraid of what might happen if she stayed. In the article, “A woman tells of escape from abusive spouse,” the author states the fear of a wife who was afraid to even go out in the waiting room after a doctor visit: “I was shaking,” Elaine said. “They (attendants) noticed something was wrong. I said, “Please, don’t make me go back out in that waiting room. Can you just keep me here and let me see the doctor now? And they did.” Medical personnel gave her a card with contact information for Mainstay, the Hendersonville nonprofit that supports victims of domestic abuse. They told her Mainstay would find her a place to stay that night.” (Rodriguez) This quote illustrates the extreme fear of a wife seeing her husband. This quote is connected to the hypothesis because it states the mother fear of the abuser. Abusive Relationships not only caused fear but even guilt from the victim.
Abusive Relationships can cause victims of the abusers to feel guilt. In the journal, “I didn’t want to put them through that: the influence of children on victim decision-making in intimate partner violence cases,” the author states how a victim feels about putting her kids through this situation, “The guilt I feel everyday and try to figure out, “What was wrong with me, why did I put my children through that, why did I make them hear things they heard?” I can relate to having that degrading feeling, “How could you allow yourself to get in that situation and how could you, how could you… put your kids through this?” (Rhodes 5) This quote illustrates how a mother felt guilty about putting her kids through the abusive relationship. This quote is connected to the hypothesis because the victim of the relationship felt guilty. In the article, “A woman tells of escape from abusive spouse,” the author states how guilt is felt by the victim: “I put my son on the line for that man, and I’ll never forget it,” Elaine said. “I will feel guilty until the day I die for that. But I can’t change it and the guilt is so extreme----there is no other guilt greater than that. I have to deliberately put it outside my head because it will kill me. I couldn’t handle that.” (Rodriguez) This quote illustrates the remorse of one mother’s decision in staying in the abusive relationship with her child even when she had an outlet to get help. This quote is connected to the hypothesis because it shows how the abuser feels shameful for staying in an abusive relationship with a child. The guilt from abusive relationships was one of many aspects of bad relationships.
Abusive relationships is a horrible thing going on today in our world. Abusive relationships have caused emotional problems such as depression and physical problems including death. Over 1.5 million teens were abused last year. The main aspects of abusive relationships are physical and emotional violence, fear, and guilt.
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