A Wedding for Her

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This summer I attended my cousins Jill’s wedding. She and Blaire married quite young as society looks at it today, Jill being 22 and Blaire 23. They wanted a very traditional wedding, with a large bridal party and all the traditional themes. I love weddings, but as I analyze their wedding in a feminist approach, so many of the traditional concepts are degrading to the bride. The marriage symbolizes a transfer of ownership. Traditional weddings have rituals developed that supress women, and bring them back in time to an age of ownership and dependency on the husband. I come from a very large extended family, my father has 14 brothers and sisters and my mother has 12. They are all married with an average of 4 children, and many of them are already married and have at least two children of their own. Our extended family is constantly growing and with such a large family we like to take advantage of special events like weddings, as a time to all get together under one venue. A wedding is not just about the marriage of two individuals, but the coming together of our extended family and friends. The wedding ceremony was a nice traditional church ceremony. There was tulle bows on the church pews and elaborate flower displays decorating the front of the church altar. You could tell that Jill took charge of the decorations. In fact talking to Jill earlier on she had stated Blaire had not much to do with the wedding planning. Blaire subconscious actions showed that it was the bride’s responsibility to do all the wedding planning. Traditionally it is assumed that wedding planning is not a masculine concept, and in Blaire’s family of all boys, the roll of wedding planning has always been put on the bride and her family, not to mention the cost. The planning therefor was not equally sided, it was assumed that the planning was a women’s task and the man had other priorities. As you walked in the first question we were asked was are you on the bride or grooms side? – I never...
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