Even though dating can be superficial, to some extent I remember getting my feelings involved and getting really hurt but also hurting guys without thinking twice about it. I will never forget how awful and small and devastated I felt when I realized that W.E a smart guy was JUST NOT THAT INTO ME. I also remember ignoring some people instead of facing up to unwanted suitors with the unattractive truth.
The worst part about this idea that he is just not that into you is that if you really accept it and let it get under your skin, you can ruin something real and meaningful when it comes around. I have questioned many relationships and doubted many sincere guys because i feel like, there is no way he can be that into me. Plus it really irks me how much power men have: men decide when to call and when to ask us out which makes women submissive and passive recipients of male affection.
In He's Just Not That Into You, Greg Behrendt offers his no-nonsense point of view regarding the "reasons" men give to women regarding why they don't want to commit. In short, the "reasons" that men give are really excuses, as Greg points over and over again. Liz Tuccillo responds to Greg's insight and ads her admittance to times when she has given off a desperate vibe while calling a Guy and not waiting for him to call. Those relationships have not worked out for her. Main Chapters, and My Interpretations of Them (What I learned):
1 He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Asking You Out
A man that seems to be nice, friendly, and polite to you and hangs out with you all the time does really like you. It's just that he is not into you as a girlfriend, or even less he does not think of you as a potential marriage partner at all.
2 He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Calling You
If a woman could get...