A Good Friend

Good friend

Friendship is very important for our life. A good friend makes our life more abundant. I make a survey at RIS to consult their opinion about the good friend. But, what is the good friend?
The good friend is a gift for our life. Anaos Nin said: “Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world.” But, what is the good friend? 100% students said “yes” with question: “do you have a good friend?” It is normal. We can’t imagine our life without friends.
However, we usually choose friend with other cases. It is the result of the survey. 100% students think the good friend is a person to understand them, 100% are to care about their problems, 80% to travel with them and help them to solve their problems, 60% are the one they can share their secrets, 60% are the one will offer some useful advices sincerely if they do wrong, 40% are the one usually reciprocates study and future with them, and only 20% to know their wishes.
So the students will choose someone who is their friend with two important standards: to understand them and to care about their problems. They don’t mind their friend to know their wishes or to reciprocate study and future with them. No one thinks about their good friend as the one who trusts them.
On the other hand, we usually expect too much from their friend. Sometimes we are easy to overlook our duty as the good friend of someone.
80% students think they are the good friend and 20% are not sure. Therefore, the question is “what will you do if your close friend misjudges you?” 40% said “talk to them”, 40% “be quiet”, and 20% “tell teacher”. This is interesting results because 40% will talk to their friend when they don’t understand each other. I realize that if they usually talk together they will have more chances to know their wishes of friend, to understand their friend and to continue their friendship. 40% are quiet and 20% tell their teacher.
I am dogmatic that these 40% don’t understand clearly about friendship yet. But after this survey, I hope they had some standards of a good friend. So I predict they will do differently with their friend in the future.
I get confuse that there are only 40% for talking to their friend because if they talk a little with their friend, so how do their friend can understand them, or care about their problems and help them. 60% don’t want to talk to their friend if their friend misjudges them. I think that “trust” is the most important standard for friendship. Christopher P. Roberts-Griffin, writer of a research “What Is a Good Friend: A Qualitative Analysis of Desired Friendship Qualities”, wrote “For ages 15-30 […] trust was the most reported desired quality in a close
Friend...” (ref. http://repository.upenn.edu/mcnair_scholars/vol3/iss1/5, 7)

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