Women and Psychology Course: Relationships and Grieving

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Sorrow, bereavement, and distress are some reactions to loss of a loved one as a result of death. Even though there are different reasons for a relationship to end, loosing a partner due to death has an amplified effect, and is a source of great grief for the individual left standing alone. Death is a powerful loss. Grieving is a socially constructed phenomenon, which means it is not fixed, rather it is fluid and changes from context to context. Loosing a spouse to death might be an expected or unexpected event leaving the partner alone and at times struggling to adjust to the changes in their lifestyle and routine. However, it is important to recognize that death in any relationship results in an overlap of factors affecting and influencing the grieving process. This is key for developing and implementing proper support, services and potential solutions for the grieving partner and families. Drawing on personal experiences and research this paper provides an interdisciplinary analysis of the affecting and influencing factors that surround dealing with death within intimate relationships. Specifically, this paper explores some of the psychological, economical, and socio-cultural factors that might hinder the healing and recovery process. As a widow, I need to except that life will never go back to being or feeling the same way; However, this does not mean that I can never have a healthy and fulfilling life filled with love, ambition, goals, and dreams. I must recognize that I am currently under a different context, and as a result must be flexible and willing to mold and reshape in order to adjust to the constant changes that are an unavoidable part of life, even in circumstances outside of death (for example disability, migration, culture, aging, etc). First I will address some of the psychological factors, since they are the bases of almost all human behaviour and activity, and will therefore provide a foundation to begin the discussion of relationships and grieving. Psychological factors are factors that refer to the mental process or mind. When a tragic unexpected event happens, one can feel unprepared and powerless, leading to feeling depressed and emotionally insecure. Death is a tragic event that leads to different feelings of depression, such as feeling lonely, unmotivated and extremely sad. Most grieving processes include such experiences of extreme emotions, which lead to a feeling of loss of identity. Since many people define themselves in relation to and coordination with their life partner. In the Scientific American Mind, the authors take on what they refer to as two misconceptions about grieving that do not hold true for scientific minds. The first misconception is that mourning includes intense depression and distress. The second is that one must work through their mourning as a process to avoid delayed grief that may be triggered by unrelated events (Lilienfeld & Arkowitz, 2012). While the online article Death and Dying for the Bereaved, discusses the models that categorize responses to grief into three phases which include: an avoidance phase, where individuals could go into denial, shock or disbelief; a confrontation phase, where individual experience intense pain due to the realization and acknowledgment that the partner is dead; and an accommodation phase, where individual experiences a decline in grief and slowly reenters everyday life both emotionally and socially. The article goes on to suggest that a key factor affecting grief includes the role and how significant the deceased was and the degree of attachment to her or him. The stronger and closer the attachment is, the more likely that the loss will be intensely experienced. (http://www.wahiawaumc.org/bereaved.html ) Some factors that might also affect the actual psychological factors surrounding grief include the contexts or circumstances around the causes of death, as well as the personal characteristics and personality of the grieving widow...
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