Wisdom I have learned from an older adult

Wisdom I have learned from an older adult
First of all I have to say that I’ve put quiet a bit of thought into who I’ve received the most words of wisdom from and I have chosen my adopted mother. Over the past thirty six years that I have been a part of my adopted family I have truly had some difficulties coping and dealing with the fact my biological mother abandoned myself and my four brothers when I was a baby. For many years I have questioned so many things, the reasons, the whys, the what ifs, and how can a mother possibly do something so traumatic to such small, innocent children.
I’ve had many a disagreement with my adopted mother over my continued search for answers, yet through all my struggles I have learned a few things that will always remain close to my heart and forever be embedded within my thoughts. Mom always told me you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them. I decided that I could never make my biological mother love me, but in turn I could love my children, family and friends without all my heart and open my heart to them in return. I’ve learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back. She taught me that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it. She told me that it’s not what you have in your life, but who you have in your life that counts so don’t dwell on those that have chosen not to be apart of your life. She taught me that you shouldn’t compare yourself to the best others can do, but to the best you can do. I quickly learned that I wanted to be the best for myself and no one else. She truly tried to instill in my head that it’s not what happens to people that’s important. It’s what they do about it. So, with that in my head I have chosen to take what my biological mother put me through and teach my children what it truly means to love and be a parent in hopes that they will one day be able to instill their love in their