Diandra M. Darby
COUN507, Section 12, Spring 2011
End of Class Date: May 13, 2011
Professor: Dr. Glenna Dunn
Submission Date: April 15, 2011
Wilson Theory Critique
In Hurt People Hurt People, Sandra D. Wilson (2001) explains that being hurt by people has led to a cycle of continuous relational and generational hurts. She states, “all of us have been hurt by people who all were hurt by other people; we, as hurt people all have hurt other people” (Wilson, 2001, 9). Dr. Wilson (2001) further explains that these hurts are “actions, words, and attitudes that are intentional or unintentional, visible or invisible, hands-on or hands-off, other perpetrated or self inflicted and barely survivable to hardly noticeable” (9). These wounds are rarely visible, but are deep and can affect the person’s life for a very long time. Dr. Wilson takes the first part of the book to explore the roots and history of the person’s deep-seated hurts. These hurts can be traced back to a person’s childhood and upbringing. People can be hurt by unavailable parents who “are distracted by their own unhealed wounds” (Wilson, 2001, 37). These parents have never dealt with their own hurts so they unintentionally inflict similar wounds on their children; which ultimately perpetuate the continuation of this cycle. Dr. Wilson’s hurts related to Backus & Chapian’s (2000) understanding of misbeliefs. They define misbeliefs as “the direct cause of emotional turmoil, maladaptive behavior and most so-called mental illness” (Backus & Chapian, 2000, 17). The misbeliefs that a person holds on to, leads to anxiety, depression, self-hate, and the fear of change. Dr. Wilson recognizes that delving into the cycle of hurting people hurting people can lead to a feeling of hopelessness. She declares, “when we hurt, we need some hope to believe that there really is some help for us to stop hurting - or...