Who Am I - a Journey of a Transgender Woman

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Transgender people face unique challenges — such as widespread discrimination and hate violence, the complex process of getting appropriate identity documents, finding culturally competent healthcare providers, and family and parenting issues — that make them some of the most vulnerable members of American society. These issues affect thousands of people and their families, representing all ages, classes and ethnic groups, who together are an integral part of India.A transgender woman whose journey begins after indentifying herself as a woman but brought up as man by her parents.

We follow a general prevalence method of identifying gender at birth as either male or female. But transgender cant be identified at birth, they posses contradictory physical appearance and inner feel. Though they physically look like a man they are woman in nature.

From the moment we're born, our gender identity is no secret. We're either a boy or a girl. Gender organizes our world into pink or blue. As we grow up, most of us naturally fit into our gender roles. Girls wear dresses and play with dolls. For boys, it's pants and trucks.

Male-to-female and female-to-male transsexuals differed with respect to social, partnership, and sexual behavior, independently of whether they had had surgery. Female-to-male transsexuals more often had close ties to their parents and siblings, established stable partnerships more frequently solely with the same biological sex, and were more satisfied sexually. When they first consulted a physician about sex change, they were already more integrated socially. By the time the follow-up assessment took place, male to -female transsexuals were as integrated socially as their female-to-male counterparts. The differences in partnership behavior between male-to-female and female-to-male transsexuals were not altered as a result of surgery, despite the better surgical match with which surgery provides male-to-female transsexuals in comparison with their female-to-male counterparts. The reasons for the relational differences remain unclear and raise issues in the areas of develop mental psychology and genetics.

But for some children, what's between their legs doesn't match what's between their ears -- they insist they were born into the wrong body. They are transgender children, diagnosed with gender identity disorder, and their parents insist this is not a phase.

Till their teen, they don’t find problem. But when they cross 13 the problem begins. The society see them as boy but they feel themselves as girl an prefer to wear girl dress, cosmetics and mingle with girl children.

A woman s feelings. A woman s tenderness. A woman s love, desires, longing. All trapped in a man s body. How do I get rid of this identity I spurn? How I wish I could discard this body the way a snake sheds its skin? How will I redeem my self, my identity, my feelings, my dreams? How many deaths have I died, succumbing to the heaps of humiliations, wounds and barbs life has aimed at me? Yet my journey has crossed these hurdles. It has a meaning. I have found a body that s perfect for me. This is the story of Vidya once without hope or identity, abandoned, a walking disaster who has emerged from darkness into light.

By the time a transsexual child confides, takes the terrible risk of rejection that disclosure entails, the situation which is to say the pain has become undeniable. Your child is reaching out to you now not to hurt you but to show you the love and trust that is the only true sign of a good parent-child relationship, to tell the truth, the core fact of a life. If you haven't seen it that way then just pause and think a minute, would you really want your child to lie to you, would you enjoy living with a shadow of a person never really knowing who that person was? Don't be confused here with the question, þWould you rather that you never had to be told that your child was transsexual?þ The answer to that one...
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