What Is Your Opinion About Marriage

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Marriage is defined as a social union or legal contract between people called spouses that create kinship. The definition of marriage varies according to different cultures, but is usually an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually intimate and sexual, are acknowledged. Such a union is often formalized via a wedding ceremony. People marry for many reasons, including legal, social, being in love, libidinal, emotional, financial, spiritual, and religious. Marriages can be performed in a secular civil ceremony or in a religious setting. The act of marriage usually creates normative or legal obligations between the individuals involved. I personally think that marriage should be formed on the foundation of love. Other factors can be considered while finding a potential partner for marriage but love should always be the first criteria. This is because without love, I think that the couples will have a hard time tolerating with each other at the beginning of a marriage and quarrels would be very frequent. But with love, at least it will be more easier for each parties to tolerate due to the special bond shared between them. Moreover, love enable the couples to have happy moment with each other throughout the marriage. Compared to couples that just do not have the chemistry attraction between them, most couples with love will have a more wonderful life together. Moreover, I think that marriage should be conducted out of own willingness and not due to parents forcing. This is because, if one just marry for the sake of having a child for their next generation, then there are higher possibility for one partner in the marriage to neglect their spouse as they may think that their spouse are like birth tool and nothing else. For them, their spouse are not their soul mate and they may not share their struggle, pain, joy and everything else with their spouse. This will cause their spouse to feel neglected and unloved. Worst still, these types of couples may end up divorcing or sorting to domestic violence. For these kind of marriage, usually their child will not be brought up in a loving environment and may grow close to either the mother and hate the father or vice versa. These marriage will also affect the emotional and mental development of the child. As the child grew older, they may think that love is not important and so are less understanding and loving towards other people. They may grow up to be a very selfish and greedy individual. Furthemore, marriage should also take into consideration financial capabilities of both spouses. As we all know, to even conduct a wedding ceremony, one need a huge amount of money, from the wedding dress, wedding ring and to the wedding dinner, all require careful planning and huge amount of investment. Marriage do not just stop at wedding ceremony, it also proceeds to the basic needs of starting a family like preparing a house, a car, money for the children education and so on, hence, I think that before a couple think of marriage, they should have a permanent job with a stable income. If a couple do not have enough financial capabilities, the marriage are definitely going to be doomed sooner or later. Just think of it, if your parents do not know how to manage their finance well, do you think that you will have a stable and peaceful life like today? Instead, there will always be quarrels among couples that blame their spouse for not being “useful” enough to find a stable job with good income. You will find sentence like “ we need to pay for electrical and water bill soon, but we do not have enough funds, why aren’t you providing enough for all of these!?” in the life after marriage of couples that are not well finance. Hence, though it may sound very realistic, but a part of marriage includes financial capabilities of both spouses. Besides, I think that marriage should not be only for couples that wanted to have baby. If the lady is infertile, I think that...
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