Navigating the Delicate Relationship Between Adult Children and Parents.” Written By: Jane Isay
Introduction to Psychology
The book “Walking On Eggshells: Navigating the Delicate Relationship Between Adult Children and Parents” is written in the view point of the parent. The author of this book, Jane Isay, did her research and interview about seventy five people in total. Her goal was to hit as many different dynamics between the adult child and the parents as possible. Her goal was not to find the perfect relationships, but to find the real relationships. Her book consists of short stories from her interviewees. To start off her book she begins with her life when she was pregnant. She had a job, freedom, and a husband who loved her. She was the envy of the wives in her university town, she had freedom to work, but her husband made it clear that it was all about to change. Jane then outlines on how we think our role as parents is. To watch our kids grow up, go off to college, get careers, and fall in love. She then slowly pulls out and story time begins. The first story is about a mother and her son. The son proposes to his girlfriend and while his mother is on a visit he confides in his mother that he does not know if Jamie, his fiancée, is for him. His mother tells him the Jamie fits him so well; however their conversation was overheard by Jamie’s sister and was misinterpreted. In the end a war began with Teresa and her son. It is a war that has turned Teresa’s son and Jamie against her. Another story that is found a little later on in the book is one of acceptance and realizing that someone has always been there. This story is about Gary, he is a homosexual man who had always had a more of an affectionate and tender with his mother. The problem though started when Gary ‘came out of the closet’ to his parents. It became painfully aware to Gary that his...