While growing up we constantly heard “a man never hits a woman.” This moral value was drilled into our heads so it would remain in adulthood. However, violence against women is still a large problem in our society today. If a value so efficiently taught still poses as an issue, the unlearned values must rate even higher. One of these being violence against men. Males have always been portrayed as the strong, dominant ones while women have been weak, fragile figures. This assumption has caused the world to ignore male victims, making violence against men one of the biggest problems. Denis Campbell, a designated reporter for the online newspaper “The Observer,” wrote that forty percent of domestic violence victims are male, or about two in five of all victims. The problem will continue to grow as long as we let it.
I consider myself a feminist. That is why domestic violence was my top research subject. I was under the impression that the only victims were women and men were just simply evil. However, when digging deeper into research, I realized that violence against men is dangerously ignored and how the affects are the same. I now feel the need to report this and bring awareness.
Starting on the journey of this new topic, I had many unanswered questions. How could a hefty, tall, strong man be victimized by a small, petite woman? The answer relates back to the lesson of “a man never hits a woman.” Yes, most men are capable of overpowering their companion; however, every gentleman knows never to hit a woman. Even if it means taking the abuse. This value also provides women with the upper hand. Women can abuse and dictate without rebellion or a fight. Violence against men also branches out farther than just physical. A woman can just as easily use verbal attack and psychological bearings. From prior knowledge, we know that when a man acquires a large amount of jealousy things can make a turn for the worse. This case can also be vice versa. In some cases women become very dangerous and sneaky when they are jealous. Things like following them, getting phone records or looking at text messages, telling what they can do or who they can see, and if there is a shared account she can decide how much money he can have at a time. Verbal abuse is an understood method of controlling someone. Men have self-esteem like women do and it can be lowered just as easily. Let’s just be honest. We all know women can be manipulative and conniving when it comes to something we want. I know this because I have unfortunately acted this way a time or two. Men do not report this abuse because the odds of anyone believing them are low. He is supposed to be able to control the situation. It’s rare that battered men are taken seriously. Honestly, I always laughed at guys who let their girlfriend or spouse control them. I thought they were just being weak and didn’t have the guts to stand up. I even witnessed a girl slap her boyfriend countless times, humiliating him in front of his friends, and had nothing to say because I wanted to stay out of the bad situation. Now that I understand that violence has the same toll on men as it does women, I would go back to that moment in a heartbeat. It’s a mistake that I will never make again.
After a moment of feeling sympathetic, I wondered why men just don’t leave. If you can’t fight back, get out of the relationship, but the situation isn’t that simple. A man is with a woman for a reason, whether it is marriage or just dating. The relationship may have started out great and the product was love. Written by Shakespeare himself in over three of his plays, “Love is blind” (Crowther). Also if children are involved, men fear losing them. A father cares for their children just as the mother does, even if he directly didn’t give birth. Apart from the reasons of love, stands embarrassment. Society expects men to never be weak. When a famous movie star or singer cries it’s...