Variety of Dialectical Tensions

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After reading effective relationship development and the variety of dialectical tensions I believe I can relate to all of these in different aspects and stages of my life. Like for autonomy-connection I can relate to this when I first meet people, I am developing a relationship we’ll also keeping my distance and remaining self-dependent. I also found that autonomy-connection in relationships has 5 different types of tensions, including concerns about getting involved and getting to know one's partner, dating others, trade-offs between the relationship and other activities, fairness and tolerance, and commitment. Findings highlight the ways in which gradual quantitative changes in romantic connection may come about through a process of cumulative yet qualitatively different dialectic tensions between connection and autonomy. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2010 APA, all rights reserved) I was able to relate to these tensions when I was dating, getting to know each other and trying to figure out when was the right time to tell them this or that about myself. Also did I see myself or him fully committing to the relationship? Inclusion-seclusion I can often relate to because when I work all day and have to stay over till someone comes into work to relieve me of my duties when I get home I don’t want to be coming home to a room full of friends and family or going out to eat. I just want a hot shower and a place to relax and unwind. Also when I was younger I dated this guy who always had our friends over which was fun but when you spend all day with a group the same group of friends day in and day out it gets tiring so in the evenings I just wanted it to be him and I. Expressive-privacy when I work with people on a regular basis I am open but I keep my distance but I allow them to see who I really am. And also when I was eight I met my dad and his family for the first time I was open but at the same time I was disclosing I wanted them to see me the great person they...
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