Using Language Effectively
Using Language Effectively
200
April 8, 2012
Rose Farmer
Using Language Effectively
During our adolescent stage, many of us struggle to adhere to our parent rules and regulations, especially when it pertains to selecting friends who will have our best interest at heart. At least for me, during my teenage period, I thought if another teenage was kind to me, then she was automatically my friend. Failing to listen my parents assessment of some of those females, caused me to suffer unnecessary heartaches and embarrassments. Because I had trouble listening, as well as refusing to listen to suggestions and/or demands made by my parents to dissolve certain friendships, only created uncomfortable and hostile environments between schoolmates who I thought were my friends, but who my parents warns me against. I believe it is fair to say that if I had followed the advice given to me by my parents, I would have had a happier junior high friend relationship experience.
Unfortunately, I was too critical of the speakers who had my best interest at heart. Every time my parents spoke to me about how they felt regarding my choice of friends, I would block their words out, and accuse them of being too critical of people, without getting to know the people in which they were judging. With all the advice relayed to me through the wisdom of my parents’ knowledge, I found myself relaying that same advice to my children for the betterment of choices they made for friends. But, while I was still young, it was impossible for me to see the forest for the trees. Instead I was not focusing on the care and love transferred to me by my parent’s warnings, I was more interested in refusing to hear the messages and more interested in the criticizing the messengers. Therefore, I would have to say that I was during that time in my life an ambush listener. According to the text, an ambush listener,” is a person who is overly critical and judgmental when listening to others.” (Interpersonal
200
April 8, 2012
Rose Farmer
Using Language Effectively
During our adolescent stage, many of us struggle to adhere to our parent rules and regulations, especially when it pertains to selecting friends who will have our best interest at heart. At least for me, during my teenage period, I thought if another teenage was kind to me, then she was automatically my friend. Failing to listen my parents assessment of some of those females, caused me to suffer unnecessary heartaches and embarrassments. Because I had trouble listening, as well as refusing to listen to suggestions and/or demands made by my parents to dissolve certain friendships, only created uncomfortable and hostile environments between schoolmates who I thought were my friends, but who my parents warns me against. I believe it is fair to say that if I had followed the advice given to me by my parents, I would have had a happier junior high friend relationship experience.
Unfortunately, I was too critical of the speakers who had my best interest at heart. Every time my parents spoke to me about how they felt regarding my choice of friends, I would block their words out, and accuse them of being too critical of people, without getting to know the people in which they were judging. With all the advice relayed to me through the wisdom of my parents’ knowledge, I found myself relaying that same advice to my children for the betterment of choices they made for friends. But, while I was still young, it was impossible for me to see the forest for the trees. Instead I was not focusing on the care and love transferred to me by my parent’s warnings, I was more interested in refusing to hear the messages and more interested in the criticizing the messengers. Therefore, I would have to say that I was during that time in my life an ambush listener. According to the text, an ambush listener,” is a person who is overly critical and judgmental when listening to others.” (Interpersonal