Use of Counselling Skills in Helping Work

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How do I make use of counselling skills and knowledge in helping interactions and/or helping work? In this essay I will outline how I make use of counselling skills and knowledge gained by looking at them individually and providing examples of how they have been used working with families and in my personal life. This will be formally and informally and will include skills practice from this course. I will look at the effects the helping have on me and how I deal with them. Carl Rogers developed person centred therapy believing individuals design their own destiny and can successfully deal with their struggles and distresses as they have within them sufficient ability, though they may be unaware of the potential for growth and improvement they hold. The emphasis in the person centred therapy relationship is trust, respect and acceptance with awareness of beneficial changes to the client that can be brought about by such an atmosphere. Carl Rogers believed this was dependent on the counsellor having 3 core skills, empathy, congruence and unconditional positive regard, believing these 3 skills are essential, in a helping situation. Empathy where I stand in the helpee’s shoe enables me to see and understand things from the helpee’s perspective, by separating the behaviour from the individual& remaining non-judgemental I exercise unconditional positive regard and in being genuine, keeping it real with the helpee I implement congruence. Without these conditions in place it would be difficult for trust to be developed and, without trust a fruitful relationship cannot be established. Active Listening is a consciousness not just of what is said, but of body language, vocal tone & actions that speak non-vocally, as a helper I show an interest in the helpee’s concerns and wellbeing, giving them my undivided attention and actively listening for the duration of our time, doing this helps to makes the helpee to feel respected, valued, accepted and reassured. I am mindful when listening to my sons of listening not only to what they say but how they say it, taking into account their body language, tone, posture, gestures etc., my son recently told me that he was fine, however his solemn expression, tone and how he was slouching told me otherwise, bringing this to his is attention (immediacy), by sharing what I saw and felt, telling him what he was saying did not measure up with what he was expressing and how he was coming across, invited him to explore what was taking place between us as we spoke, allowing him to gain more of an understanding of himself. When using immediacy I am honest about what I see, hear and sense, by describing what I see and hear I invite the helpee to comment on what I have shared, I am conscious of how and when I use immediacy remaining mindful of its potential impact on the relationship. I therefore choose what I say carefully, whilst being aware of why I am sharing; making sure that it is in the helpee’s best interest and not mine. I am sensitive to the helpee’s needs. Immediacy involves risk taking by making myself vulnerable, and being willing to follow through on its outcome, it invites here and now exploration of the helpee’s ways of relating in the immediate situation. If not used with sensitivity it could cause a breakdown of the relationship. I relate the Johari window to immediacy which comes under active listening, it is a technique created by American Psychologists Joseph Luft and Harry Ingham in 1955, it was named Johari after combining their first names, it is used as an aid for self-awareness and personal development, which indicate feelings, opinions, attitudes, aims, incentives, etc. - within or about an individual, it consists of four areas, being: 1.open = awareness of conscious behaviour that is known to you and others, 2.blind=things visible to others but not to you 3.hidden =things you are aware of but do not reveal to others and 4. unknown = motives feelings and thoughts...
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