Unwanted Pregnancy in the Philippines

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Tips for Coping With an Unplanned Pregnancy
By Elizabeth Danish | Pregnancy | Rating:
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An unexpected pregnancy often constitutes an absolute shock for women, followed by an array of overwhelming emotions and stress. Difficult as it may be, an impending pregnancy can be coped with, women having to keep in mind that all future decisions do count tremendously, requiring a much needed reflective attention.Dealing With EmotionsThe first stage after finding out about the pregnancy is a highly emotional one. Many women panic and start collecting negative emotions of guilt, a state of mind which is worsen by the crisis of fast decision making. Mothers-to-be need to learn that the primary way of coping with an unexpected pregnancy is to release all emotions, whatever they are. Sadness, anger, confusion are often felt by women who are not prepared to have a baby. Getting everything out is crucial before doing anything else, and women should know that whatever they’re feeling is perfectly normal and does not make them a bad person.Unplanned pregnancies do occur even if all precaution measures were taken. Nothing is 100% certain as condoms do break, birth control pills are sometimes inefficient, even vasectomies or tubal litigations do not ensure a pregnancy-free sexual activity. Such scenarios or a simple misjudgment can happen, and however women may feel about the prospects of motherhood, they need to face their emotions and take responsibility for the pregnancy.Getting SupportUnexpected pregnancies are not events that should be dealt with alone. Instead, women should share their thoughts on this experience and surround themselves with a supportive group of people. The order on whom to tell first is not the same for all women. New mothers need to be around positive people in whom they can confide without being criticized, badly judged and pressurized into taking certain actions. Getting support is extremely important in the immediate stage after finding out about the pregnancy, and it’s the mother’s choice on whom to turn to in order to receive some peace of mind and council in relation to the new situation.Whether it’s the father, a close family member a best friend or a specialist, it is ideal to first talk to someone who can be as objective as possible and avoid biased groups who have their own ideas about pregnancy prospects and what it means to be a mother. It is solely the new mother’s decision on whether to tell the father or not, although in most cases it is highly recommended to share the news with the father and find out his genuine opinion about the pregnancy. Stirring up inside on what he may think won’t give mothers a proper answer, and prior to telling the father about the pregnancy, women should assess all possible reactions related to how he may feel and act upon learning about the new situation.The Prospects of Unplanned PregnancyThe process of decision making needs to be a deeply reflective one and has to start only after the mother had time to collect herself and tell people about her pregnancy. Before making any kind of choice, women need to think about how a baby will interfere with their lives and the lives of others around them. Keeping the baby, considering an adoption or having an abortion are all possible outcomes, and reflecting upon how the parent’s lives will change by making each of those choices is important for women in order to facilitate their decision making. Thinking about their goals and how a pregnancy will affect them will help women to reach a decision on what is best for them. In addition, women should also take into account that they might have more than one baby. If picturing a future life with a single baby looks bright enough, how would two or more babies fit into that picture?Determining Pros and ConsAfter thinking it through and determining the pros and cons of all options, women should succeed at wrapping their minds around the subject and shape a decision that’s most convenient...
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