Unrequited Love

Only available on StudyMode
  • Download(s) : 394
  • Published : November 13, 2012
Open Document
Text Preview
Unrequited love is a love that is not openly reciprocated. The one who is adored may or may not be aware of his/her admirer’s romantic affections. They also may ignore their admirer out of lack of interest or the presence of another lover. “Let no one who loves be called altogether unhappy. Even love unreturned has its rainbow” (J.M. Barrine, The Little Minister).

This certain type of love has been depicted as an unselfish and uncomplaining willingness to accept suffering and humility. Psychiatrist, Eric Berne, considered that '”the man who is loved by a woman is lucky indeed, but the one to be envied is he who loves, however little he gets in return”. Some may see this as a negative, and while it does have negative effects, it also shows such selflessness. A quality many people in our society now lack is compassion, love, and understanding. It is truly a quality that is envied by others. Some may think, “How is it possible to love someone who does not even know you exist?”, well that just goes to show how much they invest in caring for other people no matter what benefits they will receive.

However, there are also negative effects of an unrequited love. Research suggests that some negative emotions the rejector feel are emotions such as: anxiety, frustration, and guilt. Founding father of psychoanalysis, Freud, pointed out that “when a woman sues for love, to reject and refuse is a distressing part for a man to play”. He is basically stating that it causes the suitor, male or female, pain and agony to reject their admirer. Now in most cases the unrequited lover usually always retain some hope that he/she will change their mind one day, however, the rejector's outcomes or effects are predominantly all harmful to their well-being.

While the beloved suffer from negative effects, so do the admirer’s, and they are much more harmful. If the unrequited lover has trouble expressing their emotional needs it may lead to feelings such as depression, low...
tracking img