Unfaithful

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Why do men and women cheat? There are several reasons why men and women are unfaithful. The biggest according to Neuman is “opportunity and unhappiness” (25). Relationships are built on love, and sometimes two people forget to communicate causing unhappiness. When an opportunity comes along to talk with someone about our problems we usually do so. Does it always lead to cheating? No, not always. People form relationships to get to know one another, they begin a commitment based on their love, and they seek happiness in life. Whether happiness revolves around marriage and kids or a significant other to spend life with, all relationships have problems. Cheating on your spouse or significant other is just one factor in an unhappy relationship. A recent study conducted by marriage counselor M. Gary Neuman estimated about 2.7 men will cheat and most wives will be completely oblivious and may never find out (Oprah). The reason men cheat isn't simply because they want sex. Men often cheat because they miss the feeling of being admired and feeling a woman positively responding to them (Author 202). Usually with their partner they feel criticized and undermined. Men need to feel they can make their partner happy as well as feel admired and trusted. Men are motivated by knowing “they can get things right” for their partner (Author 202). When constant arguments arise this means there are deeper issues at hand, rather they are about a woman feeling the loss of an emotional connection and bond with their man. Not enough connection feels like abandonment. In an attempt to regain a connection women complain, and tell their men what they "are not doing right" (Author 202). Unfortunately men don't know the complaining and criticism is actually a desire for connection. Men begin to believe they aren’t doing things right and there for lose self-esteem. Once the pattern starts of a man distancing and a woman complaining the man can become discouraged. This becomes a vicious cycle...
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