After reading Chapter One from ‘Becoming a Helper’ by Corey and Corey I learned different things about myself and my own personal needs. I learned about the nine different typical needs and how my own personal needs relate to them. This will help me to have a better understanding of the factors that have influenced me to join this program and the helping profession.
The Need To Make An Impact
Having a need to make a difference or have some sort of impact on someone’s life can be a life altering realization for some people and may push them towards a certain field of work or way of life. In my own experienced I realized that the one thing I want to do in life is help others and make an contribution no matter how large or small the outcome may be. I feel like I can relate to this need, I have always had a desire to want to show others that there are good and caring people all around them contrary to what they may believe. The feeling of knowing you positively impacted someone’s life can bee extremely self-rewarding.
The Need To Return A Favor
This need can be found in people who have in one point in time confided and turned to someone for help like a sibling, parent, friend, therapist, teacher, grandparent and so on. Because of the positive and influential impact that this person made in their lives they want to return the favor and become a helper. “Many therapists whom we know have acknowledged that they were greatly influenced by their experience in personal therapy TYPICAL NEEDS3
to seek the education needed to become a therapist themselves.” (Corey, Corey, pg. 4) I don’t feel like this need directly relates to me, I have never had someone impact me in such a way that I felt that I needed to return the favor. By my own personal growth and experiences I found this field.
The Need To Care For Others
The need to care for others has influenced my life for many years. As Corey and Corey explain on page 4 and 5, I was a helper at a very young age I always felt others emotions, made them my own and desperately wanted to help. I too am a ‘rescuer’ I am always one to make peace within my home. To me caring for others is the most self-rewarding feeling. At the same time this is one of my biggest downfalls, I neglect myself and my other needs because my focus is always on someone or something else, taking care of other people in the past this has lead me down some negative roads seeing as I put other peoples personal problems onto myself making them my own. I know that my personal need to care for others will be my biggest struggle working within the field.
The Need For Self-Help
This need can be found in almost anyone who has gone through a personal psychological struggle. When someone goes through an event or series of circumstances that have a great impact on them, occasionally they enter the help profession in order to sort out some of their own problems. This however can bring an advantage to you seeing as you TYPICAL NEEDS4
have personal experience you could relate to with your client, at the same time this can also become a negative factor if you show hostility towards a clients problems due to the similarities to yours. I feel as though I do have some relation to this need, we have all had some sort of experience in our lives that allows us to connect and relate to others but I do not feel the need for self-help.
The Need To Be Needed
This is a hard need to explain to others but I do feel a great need to be needed. Throughout my life I have always been my family and friends support, to me this came naturally. As years went on I felt a compulsion that I needed to be needed by others in order to feel any kinds of satisfactory and self worth in my life. This need can hurt your clients progress and needs, knowing that sometimes you will not always be needed by a client is important. Although I feel this need, I do not at all feel comfortable with...