To My Mother

My darling Mother

Having a mother like you while growing up was the greatest gift and biggest advantage anyone could ever have given me. It is because of the confidence and values that you instilled in me that made me who I am today. Thank you for shaping me into a person who I like and am proud to be. Thank you letting us believe that we could be whoever we wanted to be, do whatever we wanted to do, there were no limitations except our drive, ambition and creativity.

Having you in my life through out my infertility has been a literal life and sanity saver for me. If there was a text book on how to be the perfect mother to an infertile daughter, it would have you as the role model.

Thank you for your unwavering support through out my journey.

Thank you for reading all the books that I read, thank you for learning about a world that must be so foreign to you.

Thank you for taking me to hospital and sitting with me through all those retrievals and transfers, remember how excited we were for our first one? You are much more calming than having Marko huff and puff next to me.

Thank you for meeting HdrH, for always taking an interest in what we were doing.

Thank you for taking me to acupuncture after transfer when I couldn’t drive, thank you for sitting there with me.

Thank you for holding my hand when I had my D&C, for crying with me afterwards.

Thank you for always having hope for me when I didn’t have for myself.

Thank you for telling me not to give up when I said I couldn’t do it any more.

Thank you for never giving up on me when I went through that dark period, when I shut every one out of my life. When loving me must have been like trying to hold a cactus. Thank you for loving me through all of my rejections of help and love.

Thank you for always thinking about how Marko must be feeling, so many people forget about him because he doesn’t talk much.

Thank you for sending me that text message on the day your other daughter gave... [continues]

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