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This is a response to the story "where are you going where have you been". It includes my personal opinion about the story, and why and weather or not I liked it.
Response to: Where are you going?

Where have you been?

Where are you going? Where have you been? Is an all in all interesting piece. However, despite it's in depth detail and descriptions I, as the reader, am still left with a lot of questions.

For instance, it doesn't make sense that a 15 year-old girl can be so observant, and so aware of her surroundings, and yet so naive and so unaware of Arnold's intentions. Why would a young girl continue to speak to a guy who said he wanted to "move inside" her? She obviously knew what that meant, and was offended by it, so why continue the conversation? Not to mention that if a guy she had only seen once showed up at her door, wouldn't an observant girl like Connie realize that something wasn't right? Wouldn't she wonder how he knew where she lived, and how he knew where her parents were? I know that I personally would have been too scared to keep talking to him. Let alone walk out to him after he had tormented her. Connie knew that at least this guy was going to rape her, so why wouldn't she put up a fight or try to protect herself a little. It would only make sense, it's human nature.

Things with Arnold friend don't quite make sense either. Why would he keep trying to lure Connie out of the house? He said himself that he could easily tear through the screen door and get her, so why didn't he? Did he somehow know that she would come out to him? Now another thing is, say Arnold is a psychopath, that's why he wants to do whatever it is he wants to do to Connie, but why bring someone else in on it? I would have to think that even a psychopath would know that an accomplice could rat him out. And, what exactly is Ellie's role in their crime anyway? I don't get the impression that they are both going to hurt Connie, and if Ellie knew what Arnold's intentions were, why would he come along?

Another thing that doesn't make sense is why parents would leave their daughter home alone without even so much as a door that can

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