The Ways We Lie

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Have you ever told a lie? Why is it so easy to lie in some situations? Nearly everyone has been guilty of telling a lie in some way or another. Stephanie Ericsson, the author of, “The Ways we Lie” has shed some light on different ways of lying. This article is most intriguing because it is of a subject matter that is not really discussed. Stephanie Ericsson wrote this article to bring out that there are different ways of lying. Not just the typical lies and white lies that everyone thinks about once you hear the word lie.

Part of being truthful is when you can be transparent about your own self. So Ericsson opens up this article by confessing about her own lying ways. Ericson explains that she lied four times in one day. A passage out of Ericsson’s article in paragraph 3 states: We lie. We all do. We exaggerate, we minimize, we avoid confrontation, we spare people’s feelings, we conveniently forget, we keep secrets, we justify lying to the big-guy institutions. Looking at the above passage, we all have been guilty of one of those things. Ericsson thought that telling the truth all the time is nearly impossible. Personally, some of her statements in this article sound a little like she is a habitual liar and telling the truth is the hardest thing in life, which is not the case once you start facing the truth.

Although people want the truth, nobody really likes those people who are brutally honest. The truth is, that the truth can hurt. We live in a world of deception and have gotten comfortable living in our own realities, but in order to be free, and see things how it really is, we must tell the truth and surround ourselves with the truth. While lying temporarily can relieve you of worry, saying it is okay to lie one way and not another is hypocritical. Lying attacks our very integrity. Integrity once was important, but it seems like it is becoming less and less devalued in our society today. In this article, Ericsson mentions several types of lies. All of which are really insightful and give lying a much deeper face other than what we think lying generally is. Generally when we think of lying, we think of a white lie or a plain outright lie. We think of telling someone something or proclaiming something that is not the truth, to cover up the truth. Usually people lie for selfish reasons. Yes someone might tell a lie to protect someone else’s feelings from getting hurt, but, doesn’t everyone deserve to know the truth?

One of the lie types mentioned was Facades. I can go on and on about this one. We all have images of ourselves in our mind of where we want to be, who we want to be, and what we want to relay to people. But because we are not where we want to be or where we picture ourselves to be, some people might try to mask it to reflect how they want people to see them. Now don’t get me wrong, the meaning of facades is not talking about putting your best foot forward, making a good first impression at an interview, on a date, marketing an item, or things of that nature. A facade speaks on being deceptive with the intent to manipulate others perception on how they see you. Ericsson gave us a definition from Webster’s dictionary of lying. A lie is a false statement or action especially made with the intent to deceive or anything that gives or is meant to give a false impression. Sure we don’t want others to see our hurt, shameful secrets, regret, pain, misfortune, and anything else that doesn’t paint a happy successful image of ourselves. But sweeping it under a rug, not facing your truth, and putting on an “it’s all good” façade is a recipe for painful living that will give birth to more lies and deception that can sadly ruin the human spirit and tare a person to pieces mentally and spiritually. It can ruin you all because it is too much suppression and division with oneself. Never really thought about this one, but we have to be careful when it comes to stereotypes. Stereotypes can be...
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