In ‘’Dating and relating in the Internet Age,’’ Ted Sawchuck argues that ‘’ each stage of the dating process is influenced by Facebook, on our campus, not all the changes have been positive.’’ He explains that how in the University of Maryland, people get someone’s name; look him or her up on Facebook; and then they use that information to decide how to proceed. Also after using Facebook to check out someone, he decent an idea of whether the person she or he is a probable friend or possible romantic interest. Sawchuck talks about how on Facebook someone can be nervous to talk to someone in real life, but because of Facebook two people can talk online. In which this Facebook send by one person can be drafted and edited and rewritten and shown to friends before sending, than approaching the person in real life, so it does have…
In the essay, "The Ways We Lie,” the author, Stephanie Ericsson, tells about the many ways people lie and explains the reasons for doing so. In her essay, she talks about ten specific ways of lying that she believes are prevalent in today’s society.…
In the essay “The Ways We Lie,” by Stephanie Ericsson, Ericsson states the various methods of lying that we use, whether they are used with purpose, or used out of impulse. Ericsson talks about 9 different ways of lying: The white lie, facades, ignoring the plain facts, deflecting omission, stereotypes and cliches, groupthink, out-and-out lies, and delusion. After Ericsson states a lie she uses a crafty quote that gives an example on how the lie is portrayed, for example, for the white lie, the first lie she explains in her essay, She uses a quote by Bergen Evans,” a man who won’t lie to a woman has very little consideration for her feelings.” Ericsson uses the quotes and proceeds to inform you about how the lie is used, the plain fact of the…
In “The Ways We Lie” by Stephanie Ericsson, she talks about the many different types of lies. She says that we all lie, and we all lie in most of the ways she mentions. In my opinion, I agree with most of what she says. It is true that we all lie in some way, but we might not all lie in the same way. Some people like to use the “lie of omission” while others might to tend towards the “white lie.” While these lies, in my opinion, tend to be the most common, some of her other example of lying are also used widely. “Ignoring the plain facts” is used all over the news and media, and her example of the Church in the 1960s is one of the most famous. This is also an example of irony, because the Church itself was the one “ignoring the plain…
In this article there are several examples of how the use of the web, as well other types or media, such as IM, FB and Instagram have changed the way people thinks. One example is a person who says “Texting and IMing my friends gives me a constant feeling of comfort,” a University of Maryland student wrote after being asked to refrain from using electronic media for a day. “When I did not have those two luxuries, I felt quite alone and secluded from my life.” (Greenblatt, 2010)…
Both face-to-face interaction and social networking sites (including Myspace, Twitter, and Facebook) are forms of staying in contact with friends and family. While Nora from Turkle’s “Alone together” communicates her engagement and wedding date via email to her closest friends and family, she could have easily announced it face-to-face, at a party or through a Facebook event. While there are many ways of communicating information, the authenticity of these interactions as well as its importance is up for debate. For Turkle, face-to-face interaction is to social networking as the tortoise is to the robot: some can be moved by authenticity of the tortoise (face-to-face interaction) while others may find “a shame to bring the turtle all this way from its island home in the Pacific...[when] they could have used a robot.”(Turkle, 265) To be authentic is to be “accurate in representation of the facts; trustworthy; reliable”. It is an attribute that according to Turkle can only be found in face-to-face interactions. In calling social networks "a deliberate performance that can be made to seem spontaneous,” she adds another dimension to the definition for authenticity: spontaneity. Turkle finds that face-to-face interactions is marked by spontaneity, allowing you “to be upset in front of someone else” as opposed to giving you the time to compose your thoughts and thus hide your true feelings. (Turkle, 264) Ironically, Turkle’s notion of authenticity is more readily apparent in social networking than in face-to-face interaction; by giving control and fostering transparency, social networking builds more authentic relationships and diminishes the need for face-to-face interaction.…
Wherever two people communicate, deception is a reality. It is present in our everyday social and professional lives and its detection can be beneficial, not only to us individually but to our society as a whole. For example, accurate deception detection can aid law enforcement officers in solving a crime. It can also help border control agents to detect potentially dangerous individuals during routine screening interviews.…
In "The Ways We Lie," by Stephanie Ericsson, the author depicts the many ways humans lie and justifies the reasons for doing so. There is the white lie, which is basically telling an untruth . Facades are basically changing your personality while ignoring the plain facts, as the title implies, is a false action done with the intent to deceive. Deflecting is not answering the question at all; it is being up-front about comfortable issues and not revealing the couple of very important issues that changes everything. The omission is simply when you don 't say anything instead of lying. Stereotypes create lies from actions of a certain group. Group think is to believe something just because others believe it. Out-and-out lies are straightforward, and dismissal is simply avoiding the lie all together. Delusion is lying to oneself. Ericsson believes lying is important in order to not hurt people’s feelings and to be successful and happy. I agree with Ericsson to an extent. It is true that lying may cause hurt feelings and a simple, harmless miss truth would have solved that problem. However, the author also states that she tried to go weeks without lying and she found it almost impossible. So basically, the author believes that society is full of compulsive liars but at the same time, lies are important,…
It is curious to know that every day without thinking everyone tells lies “The Ways we lie” by Stephanie Ericcson is a realistic text that demonstrates what a lie is, why lies are told, how lies are justified, and consequences. According to this essay “We lie. We all do. We exaggerate, we minimize, we avoid confrontation, we spare people's feelings, we conveniently forget, we keep secrets, we justify lying to the big-guy institutions.” (Page 408 of The Bedford Reader). Ericsson analyze the different ways we use lies to help and hurt our self in our everyday lives, and how this effects American culture.The purpose of this essay is not to make people feel bad about themselves or to censure anybody, but to make people think before they lie.…
In "The Ways We Lie" by Stephanie Ericsson, Ericsson talks about how lies exist in aspects of our life every single day. She describes the different ways that humans lie and justifies why people doing so. These lies discussed in this article include the white lies, facade lies, lies of omission and lies that focus around stereotypes. White lie is a common way that people lie to others, because the lie would be better than the truth. Sometimes, the truth will cause more damage or dangerous than a simple harmless…
The way we lie now: technology makes it easier than ever to play fast and loose with the truth—but easier than ever to get caught. Megan Garber. The Atlantic. 312.2 (Sept. 2013) p15. Word Count: 1252.…
8. I would say Ericsson’s tone for the most part stays light and at some points even humorous. She uses just enough humor to keep the reader hooked and entertained but not too much so it doesn’t mock. I also think there is almost a hint of guilt in her tone for her lies and for they war all people lie to each…
1. “We lie. We all do. We exaggerate, we minimize, we avoid confrontation, we spare people’s feelings, we conveniently forget, we keep secrets, we justify lying to the big-guy institutions.”…
The ways lies can impact or affect the lives of the people who tell them are explained in “The Ways We Lie” written by Stephanie Ericsson in 50 Essays. Ericsson talks about the types of lies and how it impacts the person who tells lies. For instance Ericsson Three Common Lies Ericsson uses are The White Lie, Deflecting, and Omission.…
Social networking has become a part of the majority of Americans every day life. So much lives and breathes on these sites. The world has become such a fast pace busy world that a growing presence is being communicated online rather it is welcomed or not. Lines are quickly becoming blurred between professional and personal relationships but where does the line get drawn? The amount of time spent on these site have grown excessively, “as of June, 22.7 percent of Americans ' online time was spent on social media, a 43 percent increase from just a year earlier. By contrast, only 1 percent of time was spent on search engines and about 8 percent on e-mail” (Search Engine Watch, 2010). With this rise people lives will be now seen through a looking glass kind of mirror. Relationships of all kinds, both professional and personal will be able to see you in a new, more translucent way. “The days of you having a different image for your work friends or co-workers and for the other people you know are probably coming to an end pretty quickly” because of the dominance of social network sites — where people use their real names — and the extent to which information is now shared online, said Zuckerberg. That 's good, he said, because “having two identities for yourself is an example of a lack of integrity” (Danah Boyd, 2010). However is it a lack of integrity when you wouldn’t…