November 30, 2011
I Fight For My Right to Love
Did you ever imagine that you would never be able to marry the person you’ve fallen in love with? Did you ever feel that you would never have equal rights among other citizens in America? As America has become a nation where citizens have fought hard for what rights they believed in, there is another issue we still face today, which is to give same-sex couples equality by allowing them to marry. Although same-sex marriage is allowed in certain states such as Iowa, Connecticut, Vermont, New Hampshire, and Massachusetts, nearly seventy percent of people oppose the idea, stating that marriage should only be between a man and a woman. But marriage means more than the right to marry someone whom you’ve fallen in love with and wish to spend the rest of your life with. It means something more than walking down an aisle, saying your vows, and taking your significant other’s name. Marriage gives you the right to make decisions that deal with any “legal protections relating to wills and property, probate, adoption, spousal abuse, access to state employee group insurance, workers' compensation benefits, family leave benefits, and power of attorney” (Bidstrup). Our society has become ignorant because they claim that it is wrongful for gays and lesbians to love and commit to each other, and they also claim that it is a “threat to marriage” (The Humanist). It deserves immediate attention because it is preventing homosexuals to have the same legal rights as a heterosexual person has. Those who oppose same-sex couples from marriage rights are discriminatory, have misconceptions upon gays and lesbians, and are biased. Many people believe that the institution of a marriage should be between a man and a
woman and allowing homosexuals to join together as a union would violate this idea of marriage. But who can really define the type of person we fall in love with? In the Current Issues it states that the “Defense of Marriage Act” (DOMA) and “The Federal Marriage Amendment” were both created to specify the appropriate union of a marriage and to also state that, “the word ‘spouse’ refers only to a person of the opposite sex who is a husband or wife” (2010). Although the DOMA gives an ambiguous definition of marriage, it wasn’t required for all the states to follow or ban same-sex marriage. In An Economic Assessment of Same-Sex Marriage Laws, it states that throughout the years there have been marital changes such as having multiple spouses, marriage between two different ethnicities, divorce, and “the roles of men and women within marriage” (Allen). Allowing same-sex marriage wouldn’t ruin the institution of a straight couple’s marriage because two individuals, who find a mutual attraction, love, and show affection towards each other is what a relationship is based upon. In Prop 8 & the Rule of Facts: How not to settle the Gay-marriage Question, Judge Walker researched one of the best definitions of what institutes a marriage. He states that, “marriage is the state recognition and approval of a couple's choice to live with each other, to remain committed to one another and to form a household based on their own feelings about one another and to join in an economic partnership and support one another and any dependents” (Vischer). Among the “Defense of Marriage Act” and “The Federal Marriage Amendment”, there has been another amendment that has recently passed called Proposition Eight. In November 8, 2004, Proposition Eight was created to exclude all gays and lesbians the right to marriage in the state of California. Many homosexuals felt discriminated against and felt unequal because those who supported this act “were motivated by religious beliefs” (Brosnahan). Certain Churches like the Mormons raised an enormous amount of money to help fund this campaign. In Preface to 'should Church and State Be Separate, A Mormon family...