Essay: The complex relationship.
By Mia Malene
A lot of people in the western part of the world has lack of knowledge about Immigrants and the Middle East. I’ve read the novel The Kite Runner, and I mean that the book can give us another impression of what the Middle East is about- My focus in this essay is on one of the similarities found in The Middle East compared to the rest of the world. I think that the book can change people's attitude about people living in the Middle East and immigrants, because their humanity is recognizable.
The first part of the novel plays out the complex relationship between the boy Amir and his father called Baba. Amir senses disappointment from his father, he is let down by the fact that he is not like him. Amir tries everything to achieve his father's approval. I think that this is relevant for studying the multiculturalism in the novel, so I choose to focus on the relationship between a father and son. At first they are living in Afghanistan, Amir together with his father Baba. They live together with two servants, also father and son. The four of them and their relationship is complex, as the book reveals later on. The servant's boy Hassan and Amir share a profound love besides all their differences – one is wealthy, the other poor, one is secular, the other religious. Baba later on decides to move to America, to give his son Amir an opportunity to graduate from college. The challenges for Amir and his seeking for approval continues.
“Sometimes I asked Baba if I could sit with them, but Baba would stand in the doorway. “Go on now” he’d say. “This is grown-ups’ time. Why don’t you go read one of those books of yours?” He’d close the door, leave me to wonder why it was always grown-ups’ time with him. I’d sit by the door, knees drawn to my chest. Sometimes I sat there for an hour, sometimes two, listening to their laughter, their chatter.”
This is an excerpt from the book where Amir gives the first introduction of his father. The reason why I think exactly this excerpt is so relevant in the course of my essay is because it captures the essence of the relationship between Amir and his father. It is specified in chapter two as the various main characters are presented. Since it is given so early in the book it modifies the reader with a feeling of the distance between Amir and Baba.
In the picture Amir draws of his fathers’ part in his childhood, I can see a modest lonely boy who is always striving for his father approval. His father gives him everything he ever wanted and needed, except his love and acknowledgment. Amir grew up in one of Kabul’s finest homes, with his own servant and, and what seems on the outside, a perfect father. Baba was a powerful man in Kabul, liked by many and known by even more. He was respected as a generous man, as he often threw many social events and gave a lot for charity. He was a righteous and liberal man. In many ways he was what seemed like a perfect father.
However how can one define what a “perfect father” is? Is it a bulletproof illusion of a role model? Or is it simply one who will shelter you in hard weather and provide for you? We can not deny that Baba loved his son, but we can find many of the reasons why Amir became a person who betrayed his best friend through the relationship between Baba and Amir. Amir betrays his best friend in the course of achieving a higher goal; his father’s approval. In which he is so desperate to accomplish that he will let nothing stand in his way. Clearly this is a sensitive boy with a need for emotional contact with his father. He longs to be near him, but always fear that his father is distant because his wife died giving birth to Amir. It is a very sad story of a lonely boy seeking love and approval, as his father seems quite cold.
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