The Importance of Good Manners in Modern Society

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THE IMPORTANCE OF GOOD MANNERS

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One of the first most visible characteristics that distinguish a person from the 21st century, from most of his predecessors, is the way in which our contemporaries behave themselves. Humanity has existed long enough on this Earth to understand, that there are certain unwritten laws, which govern our everyday life. It wouldn’t be a far-fetched statement if I say that obeying these universally accepted rules ensures if not a successful social life, then at least a feeling of personal satisfaction, that every one of us has the right to enjoy.

Good manners express a life-friendly attitude that is generally appreciated. However, like most of the virtues we take for granted, they are a quality that should constantly be worked on, since birth. “Homo sapiens” is indeed the “masterpiece” of our kind, but its main distinguishing feature-walking, although genetically predetermined, is nothing more than ability that some of us could never have exhibited. Nobody is born with inborn knowledge. We learn all the way, until the end of our lifetime. We are taught. No matter if it is by our parents, or any other patronizing institution that holds the responsibility to add another full-body social unit to the community. It is something we acquire, so that it can later on successfully integrate us into the culmination of numerous lifetimes of work-modern day cultural society. Just like the process of learning to understand. To understand arts, science, the connection between us and these disciplines. To understand ourselves and try to find the answers to questions of existential caliber. Questions of deeper understanding such as the importance of good manners in modern society. Behaving yourself in an appropriate way is more than saying “sorry” or possessing immaculate table manners. It’s more than the formally exchanged compliments between friends, more than the purely mechanical act of the business handshake. It’s much more than that. It is again about a mark that only human society seems to be imprinted with - emotional intelligence. What is emotional intelligence? It is oftenly spoken about nowadays, but few people understand its essence. There are a couple of synonymous phrases that are inevitably conjugated with it. Emotional intelligence is equivalent in meaning to words and phrases like “maturity”, “common sense” or simply “knowing how to get along”. In terms of everyday behavior, it refers to “know-how” skills of how to manage anger constructively, be flexible, remain resilient despite of unfavorable circumstances, etc. Appreciated by many, but acknowledged by few, it is the invisible, but yet tangible backbone of our society. It is the skill, which when applied is bound to have a lasting effect on the selected target. Whether we take advantage of it for the use of good or harm, is regarded to as good or bad manners. Good manners are sometimes openly regarded as a silly, unnecessary fabrication of our modern society. Some reach further by calling them superficial and even snobbish. Others provoke, arguing that manners are only meant to enlarge the social gap, existing between people with higher and lower status. Those who refuse to comply with the set of “how to behave” rules are usually rejected and avoided. In my opinion, what such prone to misbehave people fail to understand is the purely psychological side of the matter. Good manners are all about making somebody feel comfortable and respected, appreciated for his or her presence and attention. They would make the person standing against us, more positively predisposed towards us. Life is mostly about getting what you want. Sometimes the deliberately set by us positive attitude of a person of personal importance, is all we need in order to receive an optimistic feedback regarding our cause. It is a bilateral process. Demonstrating good manners is a successful way of achieving via making a good impression. It is probably the best...
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