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A research report on “The Effects of Open Communication or Bonding Between Parents and Children”, submitted to Ms. Genevieve C. Tudlong, in partial fulfilment for the subject ENGLED 2: Writing in the Discipline, submitted by Julie Ann Almida, Marcial Kiwas, Micah Polon and Demi Rose Tacay on January 29, 2013.
B. Significance of the study and presentation of the problem
A. The effects of lack of attachment or lack of bonding
1. Conscience Development
2. Impulse Control.
4. Inter-personal Interactions
6. Cognitive Problems
7. Developmental Problems
B. Ways on how to build a stronger relationship among family members 1. Keep in Touch
2. Spend Time Together
3. Keep Promises
4. Treat Our Teens Like Teens
5. Be Thoughtful
6. Recognize Special Efforts
7. Tell Them We Care
8. Be Supportive
9. Avoid Hurtful Teasing
10. Use Humor and Lighten Up
11. Appreciate Our Teens’ Special Strengths
12. Involve Our Teens in Setting Boundaries and Making Rules 13. Be Real With Our Teens
C. Outcomes of a good parenting with open communication
Have you ever told your secrets to your parents? What did you feel when you open up? Sometimes we teenagers find it to be “corny” but freely communicating with our parents gives such great relief in ourselves that will make us feel better. We feel comfortable especially when we have their attention and their love. Bonding between families naturally helps in building a stronger relationship that will last in every ups and downs that would come and that only death could end it. It gives a great impact in boosting our self-esteem. Children and teenagers like us should be comfortable to have our communication to our parents about problems that we are experiencing outside the parameters of our home. A total bonding time with the family gives happiness and comfort to everyone. Research has found that a loving, responsive, and helpful parent who is always available for their child serves the function of binding the child to them and contributes to the reciprocal dynamics of that binding (Bowlby, 1988). Human bonding is the process of development of a close, interpersonal relationship. It most commonly takes place between family members or friends, but can also develop among groups such as sporting teams and whenever people spend time together. Bonding is a mutual, interactive process, and is different from simple liking. Bonding typically refers to the process of attachment that develops between romantic partners, close friends, or parents and children. This bond is characterized by emotions such as affection and trust. Any two people who spend time together may form a bond. (Wikipedia) The researchers would want to have this study because of the unstoppable and unreasonable growth of crimes that was committed by young people today. Recently, in the breaking news of yahoo (a free internet source of news), 15-year-old Nehemiah Griego was accused of killing his parents and three younger siblings. He continued his rampage at a local Wal-Mart store in Mexico but suddenly died in a shootout with the police. Bernalillo County Sheriff Dan Houston told reporters that Nehemiah Griego had been contemplating the killing spree for "at least a week." The teenager told police he shot his mother, the first victim in his rampage, because he was "frustrated" with her, Houston said. "From the time he was a young boy, his father Greg supported his love for music," the family statement said. They also added, “But he is a loner even if he has a lot of friends.” What could be the interpretation on how the boy communicated to his family? What are the effects of the lack of attachment to parents? If this is the kind of young people today (rebellious, murderer, drug addicts, etc.), what are the ways on how to build a...