The present studies will show how the statistics of divorce and children involved in a divorce have dramatically decreased over the past 35 years (US Census Bureau, 2004). The emotional stresses of living situations prior to, during, and after a divorce between parents and their children, as well as, the behavioral issues that may occasionally be found during these difficult times are important as to determining the developmental crises that may ensue (Levine, 1995). This paper will explore the findings of the variety of feelings that children go through during this change (Levine, 1995). Several statistical theories regarding parental involvement as well exist and these theories may provide information about the cause of a child’s emotional retraction (Marquardt, 2005). Information will be included on how the impact affects a child and ways to help make these transitions easier.
The Effect of Divorce on Children
“One out of every two marriages today ends in divorce and many divorcing families include children.” (Vollmer, 2010) What this means for the children of the divorcing families is that their security is being threatened and they are uncertain of what is to come. A divorce for any child no matter the age is going to have some sort of negative effect psychologically, emotionally, and behaviorally. In order to understand the effect of any divorce on a child we must first understand the steps leading up to what occurs prior to the divorce proceedings within a family unit. This paper will examine the changes within the family, including the child’s emotions, the stress on the children caused by the divorce, habit changes as well as different ways to combat excessive negative changes prior during and after the divorce is finalized.
For anyone going through a divorce the emotional pain and stress can be overwhelming for all parties. Studies have been conducted by one Dr. Youngmin Sun who over two years studied over 10,000 children to which 8% had experienced divorce in their family (Hartill, 2001). The findings show that the relationships within the family tend to being as much as two years prior to any separation or divorce in a home (Levine, 1995). As a result, the strained relationships between parents have a tremendous impact on the child’s life. The child, including those around them may observe the parents lack of involvement in their child’s life when it comes to school or other activities (Hartill, 2001). Children have the ability to adapt to any change on the grounds that they are spoken to about any issues that are creating discord in the home. One important fact is that the parents do not remain together for the child’s benefit (Ungar Ph.D., 2010), because this could potentially make matters worse in the whole. Our goal is to remove them from the tumultuous situation as best possible while including the child in your decisions.
Prior to any divorce there are many different types of emotions that can run through a child. The emotions can run anywhere from anger to despair (Levine, 1995). Each of the different emotions can have a lasting negative impact on the child. Often time’s parents become so discontent with their lives that they completely forget about the children and will even go as far as pulling the unintended victims into their battles, whether it be involving them in arguments with the other parent or in a parents addiction (Levine, 1995). This behavior causes, in many cases, anger not at the child, but at the parents for erroneously putting them in a position that they should not have to deal with due to a parent’s ignorance of their child’s needs which in some ways may cause them to feel guilty (Levine, 1995). As parents it is imperative to recognize what is going on in order to avoid your child feeling guilty or afraid to be left alone. The child may begin to blame themselves for issues surrounding their parent’s behaviors or...