“Till death do us part,” has been sacred words since marriage began. That person you know you are supposed to be with for the rest of your life and love until you go home to God, where we are all brothers and sister in Christ. If this is so why are the divorce rates increasing by the numbers? The foundation that is meant to build a household and lifetime of love and glorification to God is now shattered and used as an escape route for a peace of mind. Joseph N. Ducanto, author of Why do marriages fail, brings up an overlooked point in today’s society. He simple states that medical science is to blame for the significant percentage of failed marriages. (Ducanto) In the past 100 years the average life span has increased, and though one would not think that was significant to marriage, just maybe it is. Past centuries ago, people married young, had many children, and then died in there 30’s and 40’s. Today we are living an average 78 years. (Ducanto) Could the additional years become too much for people to bear? Is this way too long for two people to sustain love in a relationship? If we ask these questions then we also must ask ourselves how we can sustain a loving relationship with God, a spiritual unseen being, and not with a physically seen human being? Ducanto has a well thought idea and it is backed up by the divorce rates and the many divorces starting in middle adulthood. Studies show that in middle adulthood, couples see their children off to college or moving out on their own and they’re just left with each other. (Ducanto) These couples start seeing how much the other has changed and they no longer have an excuse to stay together. This brings back the question about sustaining a loving relationship with God versus a physical human. God is unchanging and loves unconditionally. Psalm 86:15 “But thou, O Lord, art a God full of compassion, and gracious, longsuffering, and plenteous in mercy and truth.” (Buursman & Harney, 1996) Humans are sinful and a trigger of emotions that separate us from God. We stop loving where we should show an abundance of it and we change ourselves to glorify us and not God. This plays a role in any intimate relationship and therefore, we can keep a loving relationship with God and not each other because we are sinners and always changing. Romans 3:23 “ For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.” (Buursman & Harney, 1996)
Another factor to look at in divorces is society. Our world has gone from very conservative to liberal. Getting a divorce has almost become a trend instead of shameful. When you look at religion, for example, as a Catholic it is extremely frowned upon to get a divorce yet, statistics have risen even in this religion. Society has also placed priorities different from other centuries. Once men were the workers and financial support and women stayed home to take care of the household and family but these roles have now been flipped. Women become deeply involved in their careers and neglect the nurturing of the family causing emotional turmoil in families. The husband feels like his physical and emotional needs are not being cared for and the children are affected because they don’t have the nurturer to tend to their every changing emotions and physical self. This division leads to separation and later divorce. What society does not turn to is God. Often everything we want to do in life we forget to inquire with our Father. Proverbs 3: 5-6 “ Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him; and He shall direct thy path.” (Buursman & Harney, 1996) God offers us guidance, which is not sought after by married couples. Imagine how many marriages would survive if they included God in each and every situation they make, starting with the decision to get married! Memorable Moments Filled with Destruction
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