28 September 2010
Teenagers who are striking out against their parents are making one of the strongest decisions of their lives, moving out. In most states, parents are legally liable for their children until they move away for college and work. This strike out normally occurs between 13 and 18 years of age. It is a fact of psychology. Even though adults do not believe their teenager is responsible, they should let them move out to realize the choice and to make it on their own. Some teens may believe they are emotional and financially ready to live on their own. But in reality, they have no idea how much bills, insurance, and food will cost them at such a young age. If the parent makes them feel pushed and pressured then the child will not want to come home. In fact, if they let the child realize the decision and the mistake; the teen will return home to settle the disagreement more rationally than feeling like the parent is forcing them to do so. The more defensive the parent is to the teen, the teen will come back twice as defensive and furious. The teen could also get pulled into drugs, sex, and stealing if not returned home. It is important for the parent to not be so ignorant and let the child speak their mind in a controlled manner. All teenagers no matter how mature, old, smart, or spoiled they may be; they will eventually rebel against their parents. No teenager likes to be told what to do. Starting at 13, child will try to prove that they will not be told what to do, when to do it, and how to do it. When parents tell the child what to do, they will strike out and prove that they are independent. According to child development specialist Wanda Draper, “When a teen threatens to move out, he or she is sending a psychological message that says, Hey I am growing up!” (no pag).
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