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HOW YOU ACT IN CONFLICTS
(Johnson& Johnson.Joining Together,1994,pages334-339.) -

The proverbs listed below can be thought of as descriptions of someof the different strategies for resolving conflicts. Proverbs state traditional wisdom, and theseproverbs reflect traditional wisdom for resolving conflicts. Read each of the proverbs carefully. Using the following scale, indicate how typical each proverb is of your actions in a conflict. 5 = very typical of the way I act in a conflict 4.= frequently typical of the way I act in a conflict 3 = sometimestypical of the way of the way I act in a conflict 2 = seldom typical of the way I act in a conflict 1 = never typical of the way I act in a conflict It is easier to refrain than to retreat from a quarrel.

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If you cannot make a person think as you do, make him or her do as you think. Soft words win hard hearts. You scratch my back, I'll scratch yours. Come now and let us reason together. When two quarrel, the person who keepssilent first is the most praiseworthy. Might overcomesright. Smooth words make smooth ways. Better half a loaf that no bread at all. Truth lies in knowledge, not in a majority opinion, He or she who fights and runs away lives to fight another day, He or she hath conquered well that hath made their enemies flee.

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Kill your enemieswith kindness. A fair exchangebrings no quarrel. No person has the final answer but every person has a pieceto contribute. Stay away from people who disagreewith you. Fields are won by those who believe in winning.

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Kind words are worth much and cost little. Tit for tat is fair play. Only the person who is willing to give up his or her monopoly on truth can ever profit from the truths that others hold. Avoid quarrelsome people as they will only make your life miserable. A person who will not flee will make others flee. Soft words ensure harmony. One gift for another makes good friends. Bring your conflicts into the open and face them directly; only then will the best solution be discovered. The best way of handling conflicts is to avoid them. Put your foot down where you mean to stand. Gentlenesswill triumph over anger. Getting part of what you want is better than not getting anything at all. Frankness, honesty, and trust will move mountains. There is nothing so important you have to fight for it. There are two kinds of people in the world, the winners and the losers. When one hits you with a stone, hit him or her with a piece of cotton. When both give in halfway, a fair settlement is achieved. By digging and digging, the truth is discovered.

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f Fipre 8.1 Strategies for milllll~gconflicts

1. The Thrtle (Withdrawing). Turtl~ withdraw into their shells to avoid conflictS. They givt up their personal goals and relationships. They stay away from the issuesover whiCh the conflict is taking place and from the persons they are in conflict with- Thrtles believe it is hopeless to try to resolve conflicts. They feel belple5$. They believe it is easier to withdraw (physically and psychologically) from a conflict than to face it. 1. The Shark {F.or~. Sharks try to o'CVerpower OPPOQentS fOrcing them to by accept their solution to the conflict. Their goals are highly iInpottant to them, and rel~tionships are of minorimponance. They seek to achievetheit goals at all costs.111e;y not concerned with the needsof others. They do are not care if others like or accept them. Sharks assume that colillicts are settled by oat person winning and one person...
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