Styles of Love
Styles of Love
My grandmother spoke of my grandfather as being ideal, the perfect partner in her life. When she spoke of their meeting, she spoke of an instant connection between her and him. She said that she knew she was going to spend the rest of her life with him from the moment they met. My grandfather asked her to marry him before he left for the service, my grandmother told him no but that if he still wanted to marry her after he got back from the service than she would. Needless to say they got married and spent the rest of their lives together. This scenario describes consummate love. Consummate love is the combination of passion, intimacy, and commitment. This form of love is what is thought as a complete love because it is the only one that has all three components. Now I have a friend that explained her relationship as being of convenience, in the since that neither one of them wants to die alone. This would describe what they call empty love. This form of love is the described as the decision to love one another without the intimacy and the passion in the relationship.
The differences between these two different types of love is that consummate love has all three components of love making this form of love the hardest to achieve. Most forms of love have one or two components this making them easier to achieve. Now the other form of love only had one component and that was commitment.
The different forms of love that I have in my life are consummate love and empty love. The first relationship would be consummate love. This relationship is between my ex-husband and me. We have the experience of warmth towards each other that comes from the feeling of the closeness that we share. The relationship between us never lacked passion and since the divorce the passion in the relationship is more intense. Although we are divorced the commitment is still there, wanting to be with each other till we die. Another form of love in my life is empty love where the
My grandmother spoke of my grandfather as being ideal, the perfect partner in her life. When she spoke of their meeting, she spoke of an instant connection between her and him. She said that she knew she was going to spend the rest of her life with him from the moment they met. My grandfather asked her to marry him before he left for the service, my grandmother told him no but that if he still wanted to marry her after he got back from the service than she would. Needless to say they got married and spent the rest of their lives together. This scenario describes consummate love. Consummate love is the combination of passion, intimacy, and commitment. This form of love is what is thought as a complete love because it is the only one that has all three components. Now I have a friend that explained her relationship as being of convenience, in the since that neither one of them wants to die alone. This would describe what they call empty love. This form of love is the described as the decision to love one another without the intimacy and the passion in the relationship.
The differences between these two different types of love is that consummate love has all three components of love making this form of love the hardest to achieve. Most forms of love have one or two components this making them easier to achieve. Now the other form of love only had one component and that was commitment.
The different forms of love that I have in my life are consummate love and empty love. The first relationship would be consummate love. This relationship is between my ex-husband and me. We have the experience of warmth towards each other that comes from the feeling of the closeness that we share. The relationship between us never lacked passion and since the divorce the passion in the relationship is more intense. Although we are divorced the commitment is still there, wanting to be with each other till we die. Another form of love in my life is empty love where the
References: Rathus, S. A., Nevid, J. S., & Fichner-Rathus, L. (2011). Human Sexuality in a World of Diversity (8th ed.). Boston, Massachusetts: Allyn & Bacon.