Studying Body Language: Flirting
He Loves Me He Loves Me Not
“I’m not asking for much, only…your voice…
My voice? If I give away my voice than how could I ever…
You’ll have your looks!
Your pretty face!
And don’t underestimate
The importance of
Body Language!
The men up there don’t
Like a lot of blabber
They Think a girl who
Gossips is a bore.
Yes, on land it’s much preferred
For ladies not to say a word
And after all, dear
What is idle prattle for?”
More than we realize, our body language speaks more of what we think and feel than a spoken word reveals. The way we sit, stand, smile, and gaze all give off a different gesture. According to Tracy Cox (n.d.), author of the article “18 Body Language Clues That Say He’s Interested - Definitely”, “Women choose from no less than 52 moves to show men they’re interested. The average man chooses from a maximum of 10 to attract a female.”(p. 2) So what does he do to let you know he’s interested? How should you react to let him know you are willing to give him a shot? Journey with me into the body language of the dating world to find these answers. Take a look back at your last first date. How was he sitting? Did he sit on the edge of his seat, were his toes pointed toward one another, did he sit on his hands, did he shift his chair and tap his fingers? All of these simple subconscious movements suggest if he likes or dislikes you. If he sits on the edge of his seat, or crosses his legs with the crossed leg pointing towards you, that gestures that is interested in what you have to say. (Cox, n.d., p. 4) An article authored by the Cosmopolitan (2009) tells us that if he is sitting, or even standing, with his toes pointed towards each other, this usually implies that he is not sure if the feeling is mutual. (para. 3) When a man sits on his hands while talking with you, this means he is trying to control what he wants to say. He is trying to impress you and wants to make sure he says the right thing at the right time.
“I’m not asking for much, only…your voice…
My voice? If I give away my voice than how could I ever…
You’ll have your looks!
Your pretty face!
And don’t underestimate
The importance of
Body Language!
The men up there don’t
Like a lot of blabber
They Think a girl who
Gossips is a bore.
Yes, on land it’s much preferred
For ladies not to say a word
And after all, dear
What is idle prattle for?”
More than we realize, our body language speaks more of what we think and feel than a spoken word reveals. The way we sit, stand, smile, and gaze all give off a different gesture. According to Tracy Cox (n.d.), author of the article “18 Body Language Clues That Say He’s Interested - Definitely”, “Women choose from no less than 52 moves to show men they’re interested. The average man chooses from a maximum of 10 to attract a female.”(p. 2) So what does he do to let you know he’s interested? How should you react to let him know you are willing to give him a shot? Journey with me into the body language of the dating world to find these answers. Take a look back at your last first date. How was he sitting? Did he sit on the edge of his seat, were his toes pointed toward one another, did he sit on his hands, did he shift his chair and tap his fingers? All of these simple subconscious movements suggest if he likes or dislikes you. If he sits on the edge of his seat, or crosses his legs with the crossed leg pointing towards you, that gestures that is interested in what you have to say. (Cox, n.d., p. 4) An article authored by the Cosmopolitan (2009) tells us that if he is sitting, or even standing, with his toes pointed towards each other, this usually implies that he is not sure if the feeling is mutual. (para. 3) When a man sits on his hands while talking with you, this means he is trying to control what he wants to say. He is trying to impress you and wants to make sure he says the right thing at the right time.