Stress Management And Anxiety Reduction
Chapter four Self-Assessment
For many individuals feelings of anxiety and uncertainty occur when they meet someone for the first time. The feeling of anxiety can be managed in a number of ways. One way that you can go about managing your anxiety is by giving a compliment. A majority of people enjoy receiving compliments because they make people feel good about themselves. In return you will most likely receive a compliment back which will make you feel a lot better about this first encounter. Another approach that can be used is staying connected to others. This can be done by finding out common interest. For example say you know that this individual your meeting is interested in sports. Find a good sports bar like buffalo wild wings to meet up at instead of going to Starbucks.
In certain situations I am motivated to get rid of uncertainty. For instance if someone contacted me to do some work for them, I would be more likely to want to get rid of uncertainty. I would want to know where the job was, how much it paid, and what time I needed to arrive at the site. A situation where I would allow uncertainty to run its course would probably be when someone I don’t really care for were to ask me if I wanted to hang out.
A relationship in which I experienced some level of uncertainty was with my girlfriend. Two weeks before this semester started I flew to California to visit my grandma. Well before I left Arizona my girlfriend and I had a huge argument over why she leaves the air conditioner at 70, when no one is home. As you can probably assume we didn’t end that conversation on good terms. I flew back that Sunday after noon. When I got off the plain I texted my girlfriend to see if she was at the airport already. It took her two hours and thirty minutes to reply to me. At this point I was extremely mad because I had been sitting at sky harbor for so long. According to the book Close Encounters this sequence is called relationship uncertainty. It’s defined as
For many individuals feelings of anxiety and uncertainty occur when they meet someone for the first time. The feeling of anxiety can be managed in a number of ways. One way that you can go about managing your anxiety is by giving a compliment. A majority of people enjoy receiving compliments because they make people feel good about themselves. In return you will most likely receive a compliment back which will make you feel a lot better about this first encounter. Another approach that can be used is staying connected to others. This can be done by finding out common interest. For example say you know that this individual your meeting is interested in sports. Find a good sports bar like buffalo wild wings to meet up at instead of going to Starbucks.
In certain situations I am motivated to get rid of uncertainty. For instance if someone contacted me to do some work for them, I would be more likely to want to get rid of uncertainty. I would want to know where the job was, how much it paid, and what time I needed to arrive at the site. A situation where I would allow uncertainty to run its course would probably be when someone I don’t really care for were to ask me if I wanted to hang out.
A relationship in which I experienced some level of uncertainty was with my girlfriend. Two weeks before this semester started I flew to California to visit my grandma. Well before I left Arizona my girlfriend and I had a huge argument over why she leaves the air conditioner at 70, when no one is home. As you can probably assume we didn’t end that conversation on good terms. I flew back that Sunday after noon. When I got off the plain I texted my girlfriend to see if she was at the airport already. It took her two hours and thirty minutes to reply to me. At this point I was extremely mad because I had been sitting at sky harbor for so long. According to the book Close Encounters this sequence is called relationship uncertainty. It’s defined as