Wednesday Comp II
May 12, 2010
A Majority of people in America feel that spanking is an acceptable tool for disciplining children. I believe that spanking your child should not be the way to discipline a child. You do not need to spank or physically punish your child to get an understanding out. There are other ways to punish your child than laying a hand or object on them. Such as taking something away from them, or making them sit in the corner. I consider spanking abuse, because you are laying a hand on a child and it could cause a bruise. When children are young they still do not understand what is right to wrong and younger children like to explore. From what I have seen if you spank your child they slowly resist you, when they get older it could cause problems with your relationship with them. Rather than teaching kids how to change their behavior, spanking makes them fearful of their parents and merely teaches them to avoid getting caught. Spanking continues to come under criticism as a form of discipline. The community has two obvious styles of parenting: "Old-school" parents believe that physical punishment is sometimes required, and "new-school" parents use nonphysical techniques, such as "timeouts" and open dialogue, to correct inappropriate conduct. Many child-development experts do not advocate the use of physical punishment, arguing that it rarely alters a child's behavior and can lead to child abuse. Consequently, bills have been enacted in 19 states that prohibit parents from spanking their children, particularly with belts, whips, or electrical cords. Nonetheless, some parents claim that spanking is needed to correct bad conduct in children, and they maintain that it is of benefit to children when they are older.
California assembly woman Sally Lieber is offering a form of a bill that would ban the spanking of children less than 4 years old. If the bill passes, California will become the first state to make spanking a misdemeanor--punishable by a $1,000 fine and up to one year in jail although more than a dozen countries, mostly in Europe, have laws against hitting children, including spanking. "Young children can't run or speak for themselves," says Lieber. "They are sitting ducks for abuse." Sayre (2007). If this bill was to pass then I’m sure other states will follow. If they had a law about spanking children with just a hand even then the children would not be so misbehaved in school or at home.
Spanking demonstrates that it's all right for people to hit people, and especially for big people to hit little people, and stronger people to hit weaker people. Children learn that when you have a problem you solve it with a good swat. A child whose behavior is controlled by spanking is likely to carry on this mode of interaction into other relationships with siblings and peers, and eventually a spouse and offspring. Spanking guidelines usually give the warning to never spank in anger. If this guideline were to be faithfully observed 99 percent of spanking wouldn't occur, because once the parent has calmed down he or she can come up with a more appropriate method of correction.
The child's self-image begins with how he perceives that others especially his parents perceive him even in the most loving homes, spanking gives a confusing message, especially to a child too young to understand the reason for the whack. Parents spend a lot of time building up their baby or child's sense of being valued, helping the child feel "good." Then the child breaks a glass, you spank, and he feels, "I must be bad." Even a guilt-relieving hug from a parent after a spank doesn't remove the sting. The child is likely to feel the hit, inside and out, long after the hug. Most children put in this situation will hug to ask for mercy. "If I hug him, daddy will stop hitting me." When spanking is repeated over and over,...