“Significant Influence “

“Significant Influence “ “Writers write to influence their readers, their preachers, their auditors, but always, at bottom, to be more themselves.” the person who has had the most significant influence on me is my mother. This influence goes way beyond the usual “I have great admiration towards my mom because she is the best.” My mom has been the sole guardian of me for as long as I can remember and her actions have turned me into the person I am today. My mother is one who leads by example. She has always given the prime example for me to follow; she has made me look at life like no other person could. My mother has turned me into someone who is responsible for myself and my own actions. Raising two children as a single parent would be, to say the most difficult. But as my brother and I were growing up under the care of my mom, I never saw my life as a struggle even though we were going through so many obstacles at the time . She helped us grow stronger as the problem got worse. I am not saying that my mom took everything with grace and ease; unlike most other children, I have seen my mom both laugh and cry through the experiences of a terrible divorce and sometimes being stuck at the end inbetween my parents was the worst . But this made our home more open to feel and nothing to be hidden. As my mother went through this horrible stage of divorce with my father she never spoke bad things about my father like many mothers’ do Instead she said to love him because we had nothing to do with adult issues. This unpremeditated approach to guidance over my brother and me did not lead to a treacherous pushing of boundaries. In fact, it brought my brother and me closer to my mom; it made us less likely to act out because we knew she trusted us. Many parents create disadvantages to oblige their children before they even have broken the rules.. My mom never utilized this mindset. This has led me to make good decisions because, if I didn’t, I would mostly disappoint myself; she has taught me to motivate myself so that I became independent of rules and would just achieve on my own. She also has given me a work ethic to be proud of and a thirst for knowledge. My mom would continuously work hard to give her children the life she felt they deserved and from a young age, I wanted to mimic my mom. Being raised by my mom has given me a “You can achieve anything and everything is possible” attitude. Sharing responsibilities with her around my house has made me realize that if I want to accomplish something, I can’t expect someone else to do it for me. My mother has given me this independence, but that doesn’t mean our relationship has changed . She has just given my brother and I the proper education and mindset most parents don’t accomplish to do at such a young age . Also the most important thing my mother has done significantly well is being a mom and proving to us that we can overcome any type of obstacle in life .