I was often left feeling very undervalued and useless and was always told that “You should have done better”. I did not agree with my mother administering physical violence towards me, I lost respect and any affection that I had left for her. I was scared of her at first but later in my teens I stood up to her taking the slipper out of her hand and telling her she would not be hitting me with it. The physical violence then ceased, but she still threatened me with it, but I would just walk out of the house returning when she had calmed down.…
Moreover, sometimes people think that Shamming is good or that it is a perfect way to teach someone a lesson is because it gives them the power to do the right thing in public where all their followers are paying attention. Some other reasons that enable people to shame others on social media are that Shamming helps spread awareness on issues, it throws light on ignorance and wrong views, voice of people is heard who are usually unheard and most importantly it helps reduce imbalance of…
In “Condemn the Crime, Not the Person,” June Tangney argues that shaming sentences worsen the situation instead of “fostering constructive change.” According to Tangney, shaming sentences for nonviolent crimes-supported by judges and social commentators-such as “offenders [parading] around in public carrying signs broadcasting their crimes,” are cheaper and more effective substitutes to the prison sentences. She explains that in order to understand shaming sentences, it is important to know the difference between shame and guilt. Shaming sentences, which is intended to induce feeling of shame emphasizing on humiliating oneself and reflecting oneself as a bad person, is often followed by “a sense of shrinking, of being worthless...” As a result,…
There could be many different social repercussions that come from public shame, some might be positive but most have a negative impact on the person. A clear example of a negative reproduction is in the speech by Monika Lewinsky The Price of Shame. In the twenty-two minute talk, Monika clearly described the negative affects of public shame and how it can affect your social lives. A very important quote that she said was " I was then swept up into the eye of a political, legal and media maelstrom like we never had seen before... this scandal was brought to you by the digital revolution" (02:44). Another quote she said was " This rush to judgement, enabled by technology, led to mobs of virtual stone-throwers" (04:14). These quotes both show how…
Sadly time hasn't stopped people from judging but it has let people begin to understand that public shaming shouldn't be this…
Some people on “social media were just starting on our shaming crusade”(230). People tend to take others online mistakes into their own hands. You also caught yourself” judging someone on how flustered he behaves in the face of shaming is a truly strange and arbitrary way”(234). Public shaming is bad, unproductive, and ineffective. I also think that people become so into shaming that they feel as if it is a neutral thing. Public shaming is a vicious cycle and by shaming someone is likely to produce even more shame for him or her. I noticed that the attitude you had towards public shaming in the beginning of the book changed towards the end of the book. You also mention that “we are creating a world where the smartest way to survive is to be bland”(266). Everyone has his or her own opinion on how our society is but fail to realize how boring we are becoming. I also agree that we fail to realize who much some of us are getting off on others suffering after being publicly shamed. Many people who publicly shame other try ease the pain by creating “illusory ways to justify”(81) their behaviors. People believe that by shaming others they are doing something righteous. They use that to justify others losing everything they have done throughout their lives for a mistake they made on social…
Many times when people are Isolated, they begin to feel resentment towards others. In the book A Child Called It by Dave Pelzer, he talks about his experience of growing up with an abusive parent. His relationship with his family was normal and loving up until around first grade. He began noticing his mother’s attitude changing towards him in a very negative way. It started with small punishments, and ranged to beating, and little “games”, as Dave Pelzer would call it. Throughout the book, he places emphasis on many specific instances, and his fight for survival while growing up. He also places a major emphasis on his Mother, the abuser, and his father, the stand-by (Pelzer 1-72). There are many times throughout his book where…
I was ashamed of who I was as a young boy. I resented my own cultural background; living in South Georgia, I foolishly desired a more Western heritage. Today, I look back on my youth in embarrassment because I did not accept myself for who I was. Before I stepped into that car, I felt it would be the last time I would see my great-grandmother. I let her go without even saying goodbye. My thoughts were confirmed as she passed away two weeks later. To this day, I live with regret knowing I let my great-grandmother slip away because of my own selfish thoughts in wanting a different heritage and not accepting…
Both authors give valid arguments on why shame as a punishment can be an alternative to incarceration of non-violent crimes. Kahan believes that shame is worth a try. He states, “shame is cheap and effective and frees up scarce prison space for the more serious offenses” (Kahan 573). He sees shame as an alternative to incarceration. Kahan states, “Nor do we condemn offenders to educate the retarded” (572). When Kahan uses the word “retarded” it shows some unprofessionalism in his article. It can also steer readers away from his point of view because some may find the word “retarded” to be offensive. Kahan also believes that using shaming punishments has better effects than community service. He states, “indeed, saying that such community service is punishment for the criminal insults both those who perform such services voluntarily and those whom the services are suppose to benefit” (Kahan 572). Kahan statement makes a valid point. Those who put forth the effort of serving their community should not have to work with…
It is a judicial punishment imposed on a convicted criminal that includes humiliation instead of imprisonment. June Tangney in her essay writes, “A number of social commentators have urged America to embrace public shaming and stigmatization as cheaper and effective alternatives for curbing a broad range of nonviolent crimes” (Tangney 570). This is true; it is a much less expensive form a punishment, for incarceration costs are escalating. Also, public shaming is a great way to have nonviolent crimes dealt with in an efficient manner. People do not want to be publicly shamed for it ruins their reputation. If someone had to drive with a bumper sticker saying they got a DUI, they will be mortified because everyone who sees them is going to look down upon them. Public shame is meant for minor crimes only as in a DUI or a guy soliciting prostitutes. When people are publicly shamed they are looked down on in society which causes them to be…
‘if your parents frequently degraded or devalued you, especially if they implied you were never good enough, you’re likely to grow up feeling a deep seated sense of inadequacy and failure’. (Koenig, 2007, p. 88)…
Later on, in my high school life, I was exposed to ideas from feminists like Chimamanda Adichie and Emma Watson. These women led me to question the traditional views on the duties of women. Seeing how outspoken and fearless they were, I bundled up the courage to ask my mother why I had to serve my siblings their food. Offended, she asked me if I thought domestic duties or traditions diminished my worth. She then proceeded to remind me how I am…
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Prior to this experience I would have labeled myself as a bad influence. When my mom expressed her perception of me being a good girl, I looked outside of what others said and I agreed with her. I was proud…
At the Josiah Quincy Elementary School, people kept asking me why I was adopted. The kids made fun of me because I was adopted and had white parents. They said stuff that was so wrong, mean, horrible, and disrespectful. When kids made fun of me, it hurt my feelings. I felt sad and angry. The kids made me feel horrible; they were rotten to me and rotten to my family. When I got angry, I sometimes felt like punching them so hard, but as Martin Luther King said, "Learn to love your enemies." Therefore, I was kind and gentle.…