sexual values

I was born in the former Soviet Union, a Country where at that time officially was admitted that “sex did not exist” and all conversation about sexual relationship was forbidden and considered immoral. Schools and Universities concentrated their study on the physiology of the human body and gave minimum information about sexuality and sex. Any visit to a church for sexual counseling was banned and to get advice from a priest about a sexual relationship was almost impossible as well. Most Families educated their children based on religious dogmas which were kept from their religious Grandparents; sex had to be only after marriage with blessings from a priest. After the collapse of the Soviet Union, information about sex, sexuality and sexual relationship became more accessible.
My reasoning of sexual values is placed on the concept of sexuality and sex. I will assert that our sexuality is a central aspect of the human person. When we discuss about sexuality, the first thing we take into consideration is physical attraction. Men are very visual. Essentially what men find attractive about a woman are her legs and butt. Height and weight are first things that a woman note when she meet a man. Too much or too little of either immediately classifies the man as unattractive to women, and women certainly are not going to be interesting to the man. What also counts to both man and woman as physical attraction is what they do with their hair, clothes, grooming and basic hygiene. If a man or woman can't make the effort to take care of their hair or to choose style of dress, or keep their body clean, then they will lose the chance to be attractive, after all, physical attraction is a desire that stimulates the senses. Different people have different physical attractions. For me individually a man will physically attractive if he keeps personal hygiene and not over wait. I will give credit to man if he has good sense how to dress, but what will turned me off is if he has stinky body odor. Fresh breath, natural smell of skin, and clean nail are three components that man must care of at all the time. If man has problem with this I will simply ignore him. I do not like overweight men because to me they seem to be not healthy, physically and may be spiritually weak. Physically weak because instead mussels he is fat and spiritually weak because he cannot find power inside himself to lose the wait.
In fact, sexuality is not only fueled by corporeal attributes. Emotions, intellect, sense of humor, attitudes, and opinions are some of the immaterial elements that contribute to the powerful force of sexuality. When I go on a date, first that I take in consideration is my partner attitude and emotions. As you know attitude represent the cluster of belief, feelings, and behavior, whereas emotions operate as event often without our awareness and also can be briefly. Knowing this, better to be careful because you don’t know the person whom you date as well as you don’t know how he will behave; therefore, in the interest of personal safety I prefer to meet on weekends, public places and at the day time. Each person is an individual, maybe he or she will have good attitude and behavior but not enough smart to you. The level of intellect is as important in relationship as physical attractions. When couple able to hold an intelligent conversation it may come to the point where both finally will admit their interest and become official. When you meet someone you have to think whether or not your partner would be a good fit with your level of intellect. I undoubtedly give my preference to a man who interesting in conversation and has his own opinion as well as has sense of humor. Life cannot be serious all the time that why tell something funny or do things together with a sense of humor always help in relationship.
I believe that physical attractiveness and immaterial elements of sexuality are intimately connected with each other, that is why our physical sexual self is one of the highest magnitudes of our self. For example, sexual intercourse or sex, I feel, is the utmost way to offer our self to others, however,it makes us extremely open and vulnerable psychologically. As a result of this, sexual activities should be reserved for the proper age, times and situations when we are ready to handle it. Deciding to have sex we also have to be sure we are in a supportive and honest relationship because sexual intercourse is not only pleasure but also serve a procreative function. I don’t want to say that every act should be procreative however we have to be careful in order to avoid unpredictable results. Based on this I think its time to remember traditions our Grandparents, when have to sexual activities was allowed after marriage as well as procreative function. In my situation, before to have sexual relationship with man, I prefer and I always fallow my rule, learn about the person as much as possible. It’s usually takes about one to three months. In this period of time, a man tries to present all his good sides of personality, because he wants attract a woman. At the same time he shows his negative or weak sides personality because this is what he is and very difficult play different person if you are different.