Literary Analysis- A True, right and just sexual ethic
10 December 2012
Infidelity, Broken Relationships, Marriage and Divorce
“Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give unto your bosom. For the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again (Nelson).”
In today’s modern society such virtues that were heralded in the past as founding principles to ensure sexual morality in cultivating strong relationships are today no less than despised. There used to be time when relationships of all kinds were built on the foundations of trust, love, honesty, commitment and a mutual respect for each other especially the marriage relationship. However in today’s open ended society, it is common practice for a friend or family member to secretly hook up with a married person or a person that they know is already involved with someone close to them or that is liked by someone close to them. Practices of such disregard for another person’s emotions, wellbeing & trust while pursuing selfish gains and pleasures have shown themselves to be the driving force behind ruined friendships, relationships & marriage relationships that end in divorce as well as a threat to the social welfare of society when practiced by a great percentage of the populace. The effects of violating basic principles of trust, love, honesty, self & mutual respect and commitment has increased the chances of contracting sexually transmitted diseases, including HIV/AIDs; unwanted & unplanned pregnancies, abortion. Feelings of regret, guilt and shame are the common aftermath of uncommitted sex or disregard for sexual morality. Casual sex outside of marriage or in violation of marriage can be a corrupting influence. When there is no respect for sexual morality, people will lie, cheat, betray friends and family to get sex or gain someone or something that they feel belongs to them even at the expense of loosing a friend, family member and one’s self-respect. “In one group of 75 middle class 19 year old male students, 65% admitted getting a young woman drunk to have sex, more than 40% had used verbal intimidation and 20% had used force or threats of violence. In a study with from the University of California done on students, found that a quarter of the men who were sexually active in non-committed relationships were involved with more than one person at a time and their partner didn’t know (Mosher and Anderson).” When people treat others without regard to their worth & feelings or as sex objects to be exploited, they end up debasing themselves. As one who was raised with Christian principles and beliefs, I was taught that marriage is a sacred institution put in place by God to ensure the emotional, psychological, spiritual & physical safety of the individuals involved. The teachings also ingrained in me that marriage wasn’t only a sacred institution between two people consenting to a life together but it was a way to ensure that the children who were conceived within the confines of marriage were raised in a structured environment that mirrored through the parent’s actions the definition of a healthy, strong relationship. I was also raised to be an honest woman, treating people the way I would want to be treated, not gaining anything in my life at the expense of someone else’s feelings or loss intentionally or secretly. I was also taught that trust, honesty, love, faith and respect are key principles to obtaining, nurturing and maintaining health friendships, relationships and marriage. All of my life principles from an early child are based on a Christian foundation. However, when I studied the causes of destroyed friendships, broken relationships, and marriages that ended in divorce, I found that even those relationships founded on Christian principles dissolved just as quickly as one founded without Christian principles...