Everyone expects a high quality life, while the definition of “high-quality” among different individuals varies. A more general definition might be to achieve “Wellness”. The concept of “Wellness” is stated as a life-long process that at any given time produces a positive state of personal well-being, of feeling good about oneself, of optimal physical, psychological, and social functioning, and the control and minimization of internal and external risk factors for both diseases and negative health conditions (Anspaugh, Hamrick, & Rosato, 2006). To be more specific, wellness should be achieved in fulfilling 7 aspects: Physical, Spiritual, Intellectual, Occupational, Environmental, Social and Emotional.
Stress Control Management
In order to understand self status of wellness, I have done a Lifestyle Assessment Inventory to look for the wellness of each aspect. From the summary, the poorest result is found under the stress control assessment aspect. Some poor behaviors such as tend to be nervous and impatient, cannot stay calm and patient when working under pressure, and cannot make decisions with a minimum of stress and worry. To make improvement in this aspect, I have read a book titled “Worries & Anxieties” (擺脫憂癮). After reading this book, I believe my poor management in stress is mainly caused by high anxiety. Because of high anxiety, there is high pressure; while I cannot tackle the pressure, it is difficult for me to manage the stress.
Factors causing anxiety
Since efficiently managing stress is very important in the high pressure society, I tried to discover the methods to improve the stress management, starting from tackling anxieties. Firstly, I found the reason caused my high anxiety. From the book, I summarize some examples that possibly causing my anxiety; the book mentions those people have excessive pursuit of other’s recognition, fear of rejection, and with the mind of “personalization” might have high anxiety. Excessive pursuit of other’s recognition
I realized I am a person always pursuit others’ recognition. It is because when I do not have self confidence on myself, I need others’ recognition to ensure my achievement, and this happened frequently. An example of this is I always require others’ appreciation and confirmation about my work and performance. If I cannot get the confirmation, I would look over the case again and again, since I think that I must have make some mistakes that makes others do not want to give comment. Usually I build my confidence, and even my value up from others’ appreciation, however I understand this is very unreliable that I should build up self confidence by trusting own ability. Fear of rejection
Meanwhile, since I don’t have enough self confidence, I would afraid of others’ criticism and rejection. When having presentation, I would usually feel tense in the Q&A section since I am afraid of the challenges by classmates and teachers. The book truly write out my experiences, because of scaring other’s rejection, making faults, and do not want others find out our own imperfectness etc, which makes us reject to, and even escape from taking challenges. Mind of “personalization”
With the mind of “personalization” is the comment from my supervisors in summer internship and part-time job before. Every time I face the complaints on phone calls or face-to-face, I may blame on myself though the complaints are pointing to the companies’ policies. I would add great pressure on myself though I am not able tackle the problem of policies, hence I would be very depressed about the complaints. Because I cannot cope with the high level anxiety caused by the three above factors, it is easy to me to get in high stress as well. Therefore lower the anxiety level should be the beginning for me to have better stress management.
Solving high anxiety and learn to manage stress
Reduce the discouragement and increase encouragement
“Worries and anxieties” also teach people to...