Self in Interpersonal Communication

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THE SELF IN INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION

SELF
Definition of one's identity, character, abilities, and attitudes, especially in relation to persons or things outside oneself or itself. There are three fundamental aspects that make up the self:

1. Self-concept: Your self-concept is the way that you view yourself. 2. Self-awareness: Your self-awareness is your knowledge about yourself, including your insight. 3. Self-esteem: Your self-esteem is how much value you place on yourself.  SELF CONCEPT

The term self-concept is a general term used to refer to how someone thinks about or perceives themselves. The self concept is how we think about and evaluate ourselves. To be aware of oneself is to have a concept of oneself. Baumeister (1999) provides the following self concept definition: "The individual's belief about himself or herself, including the person's attributes and who and what the self is".

SELF-CONCEPT means your own view of yourself and it can include: * How you see yourself
* Your thoughts about yourself
* Your beliefs about yourself
* How you feel about yourself
SOURCES:

1. Others' images: If you want to find out how you look to other people, then you would at how other people treat you. According to DeVito (2009), we look to people who are important to us to see how they treat us. He states, "If these important others think highly of you, you will see this positive image of yourself reflected in their behaviors; if they think little of you, you'll see a more negative image" 2. Your interpretations and evaluations: Naturally, we evaluate and interpret our own behaviors. If we look back at a certain communication event and find that the behavior we used goes against our beliefs, we will feel guilty. Let's say you are out with friends. Your friend asks you for your honest opinion. If you tell them a lie, you might later feel guilty because you value yourself as an honest person. 3. Cultural teachings: Our culture teaches us how to think, believe, and act and much more. So how you define yourself is developed from your culture. In addition to your interpretations and evaluations, if you go against your cultural teachings, you may feel a sense of guilt or failure. For example, it is common to be married at a young age in the state of Utah. This is a cultural belief and attitude. If you were to be married after 30 years old, it might be seen as against the cultural teaching to this area. 4. Social comparisons: For example, if you want to find out if you are seen as a positive person, you could ask your friends if they think you act like a positive person. When we reach out to others to find out how we look, we usually go to those people that we find close to us and important; This would include people like family members or close friends. We do this because we know we are more likely to get an honest answer from these people. 

The three sources of self-concept are:
* Social information and interactions:-
The positive and negative messages we receive from others that shape our beliefs. * social comparisons:-
How we think we measure up to other people;
* self-observation:-
Being able to monitor our thoughts which affect our behavior and our own interpretations and evaluations. Self Esteem and Self Worth
(The extent to which you value yourself)
Refers to the extent to which we like accept or approve of ourselves or how much we value ourselves. Self esteem always involves a degree of evaluation and we may have either a positive or a negative view of ourselves. HIGH SELF ESTEEM i.e. we have a positive view of ourselves. This tends to lead to * Confidence in our own abilities

* Self acceptance
* Not worrying about what others think
* Optimism
LOW SELF ESTEEM i.e. we have a negative view of ourselves. This tends to lead to * Lack of confidence
* Want to be/look like someone else
* Always worrying what others might think
*...
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